Hi everyone,
I hope fellow aspies will be able to give me some guidance, because I could sure use it. My fiancé and I recently got 200 dollars from his mother, as a Christmas gift. After using some of it for shopping, he forgot to take the remaining 150 dollars out of his coat pocket. After trying to look for it all day, I just realised he didn't even take the envelope with money out of his pocket before we left for church yesterday. It's very likely someone walked in during the service and stole the money from his pocket. The coat room is only a few feet from the church door.
I spent the last three hours having a huge meltdown, and I'm still having trouble wrapping my head around it. The thought of theft makes me very sad and uncomfortable. I have a hard time dealing with injustice. But the thought of him handling his money so carelessly disturbs me even more. Every time I think about that money being in someone else's possession, I cry.
My mother raised me to always look after my money and take care of it. This leads me to say that he should sell some of his belongings to get back the 150 dollars (for example, his Playstation 3). I couldn't look his mother in the face without him doing so, and I think it'd be an insult to his mother, himself and to me if he didn't try to get some of the money back in another way.
Do you have any tips about how I should try to calm myself down? Currently, I'm so stuck with those negative thoughts I feel like my entire week has already been ruined.
Thank you in advance!
Zapbook
I hope fellow aspies will be able to give me some guidance, because I could sure use it. My fiancé and I recently got 200 dollars from his mother, as a Christmas gift. After using some of it for shopping, he forgot to take the remaining 150 dollars out of his coat pocket. After trying to look for it all day, I just realised he didn't even take the envelope with money out of his pocket before we left for church yesterday. It's very likely someone walked in during the service and stole the money from his pocket. The coat room is only a few feet from the church door.
I spent the last three hours having a huge meltdown, and I'm still having trouble wrapping my head around it. The thought of theft makes me very sad and uncomfortable. I have a hard time dealing with injustice. But the thought of him handling his money so carelessly disturbs me even more. Every time I think about that money being in someone else's possession, I cry.
My mother raised me to always look after my money and take care of it. This leads me to say that he should sell some of his belongings to get back the 150 dollars (for example, his Playstation 3). I couldn't look his mother in the face without him doing so, and I think it'd be an insult to his mother, himself and to me if he didn't try to get some of the money back in another way.
Do you have any tips about how I should try to calm myself down? Currently, I'm so stuck with those negative thoughts I feel like my entire week has already been ruined.
Thank you in advance!
Zapbook