Feeling Self Conscious about looks

[Arkadium]

So, I know I don’t look drop dead gorgeous. But i’m not sure where I rate on a scale of 1-10, i’ve never dated or been in a relationship.

Few people praise me Bar my parents. I notice when I make an effort I don’t get too many compliments.

Yesterday I was at a special event, so I dressed up. Following the event I took a photo on put it on FB. I don’t upload unless I think it looks respectable.

Anyway, just received a few likes. No likes from friends etc. Made me feel very insecure and self conscious.

Not sure why my photos don’t get likes, but it’s something that I notice. Very upsetting.

(Why wouldn’t friends and family like my photo?)

Makes me wonder if people don’t want me to do well.

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[Arkadium]

Am married, have dated a lot and have studied psychology, Looks are nowhere near as attractive as confidence, master that and you are good to go

 

[Fade2black]

OP, you sound like you're on the young side, possibly late teens or early 20's where fitting in seems to take precedence over nearly everything. You're probably a minority like me, who is just kinda average, plain and not too exciting. I've been this way all of my life with some regrets that I can't change who I am. But, I can tell you with certainty, that there will be people who will understand who you are and find beauty in simplicity.

I'm a tall 50's aspie male who's been told many times by the opposite sex that I'm not good looking, that I'm boring or that I'm not normal. My wife who's early thirties is a nice looking short thin woman who is not an aspie but prefers "boring" for the sake of simplicity and routine. She frequently jokes that I'm ugly, but only on the outside. We are an unlikely couple. My point is, you don't have to be good looking, exciting or popular..... Who you are will be perfect for someone else.