Lealea
All that we see or seem is a dream within a dream.
Hi guys I am interested to know how your family members reacted to you having found out that you have aspergers. Out of my close family circuit only my mum and sister know, my brother and father do not, as far back as I can remember I have never been able to communicate with my brother I think it was due to the eight year age gap, when I was growing up he was never really around the house. My sister who is fifteen years older than me has accepted it and knows I'm still me she's the person I'm closest to in my family, I see her as more of a mother to me.
Now my actual mother is the real problem, she's how can I put this..stuck up maybe, I'm not sure. I had to tell her about aspergers because she had to be present to answer questions about when I was a child I wouldn't have told her otherwise. When I mentioned aspergers she went off on a little rant saying " I don't have it" and my social problems wernt her fault, she obviously thought I was blaming her for this and trying to needlessly defend herself and I hadn't said anything to suggest that I thought this. I don't blame anyone. But reluctantly she came did her bit and left.
I didn't tell her I had it until Tuesday when she asked me, which I just replied yes. Her response was "well it's very mild then, not worth bothering about" this upset me deeply and confused me I have the reason for my social problems ( which are so bad I have to have my sister with me when I go shopping in case someone talks to me, I have no friends and rarely leave the house only to take my kids to school) and all the weird little things my brain does, and makes me do a lot of what people have to say on the forums I can relate to.. But surely my mother knows me best, even though I moved out when I was sixteen. I'm not asking for sympathy just a little support off her would be nice.
It's depressed me for the last two days, thing is I don't just get a little bit sad about things if something upsets me I plummet right down to the place where you start to wonder why anymore. I know I've wrote a lot but It would be impossible for me to tell anyone my feelings face to face. And if and how anyone else has had to deal with a family member who is.. kind of in denial I guess
Now my actual mother is the real problem, she's how can I put this..stuck up maybe, I'm not sure. I had to tell her about aspergers because she had to be present to answer questions about when I was a child I wouldn't have told her otherwise. When I mentioned aspergers she went off on a little rant saying " I don't have it" and my social problems wernt her fault, she obviously thought I was blaming her for this and trying to needlessly defend herself and I hadn't said anything to suggest that I thought this. I don't blame anyone. But reluctantly she came did her bit and left.
I didn't tell her I had it until Tuesday when she asked me, which I just replied yes. Her response was "well it's very mild then, not worth bothering about" this upset me deeply and confused me I have the reason for my social problems ( which are so bad I have to have my sister with me when I go shopping in case someone talks to me, I have no friends and rarely leave the house only to take my kids to school) and all the weird little things my brain does, and makes me do a lot of what people have to say on the forums I can relate to.. But surely my mother knows me best, even though I moved out when I was sixteen. I'm not asking for sympathy just a little support off her would be nice.
It's depressed me for the last two days, thing is I don't just get a little bit sad about things if something upsets me I plummet right down to the place where you start to wonder why anymore. I know I've wrote a lot but It would be impossible for me to tell anyone my feelings face to face. And if and how anyone else has had to deal with a family member who is.. kind of in denial I guess