Do you use Tinder?

[Mr Allen]

I've got the app on my phone, and had a few matches and said hi to a few, but going on Tinder dates at my age? Nah probably not, or should I?

Tinder is the site, and you can download the app on your phone from the App Store or Google Play.

 

[the_tortoise]

I don't use it but I see no reason why you shouldn't, if you want to.

I don't really understand what age has to do whether or not you should use Tinder, but if it helps you decide:

Other people your age (and older) use Tinder. I looked it up and what I found says that 13% of Tinder users are 35-44 years old[1]. (That's a minority but still a lot of people.....in early 2015 Tinder had 24 million members[2], so 13% is 3,120,000 people. And apparently the UK is second only the US in number of Tinder users.[3])

If the reason you question whether you should be using Tinder at your age is because you are of the opinion that at your age you should be looking for serious relationships only and Tinder is for casual ones (or even just for casual sex, seeing as it has a reputation for that):

It seems there are people on Tinder looking for serious relationships, too.[4]

If it's not your opinion, exactly, but something you are told a lot, I think you should question the reasoning behind what you're told. It's your opinion that matters, because it's your life and you only get to live it once.

Sources:

1. http://www.businessofapps.com/data/tinder-statistics/
2. https://www.datingsitesreviews.com/staticpages/index.php?page=Tinder-Statistics-Facts-History#ref-ODS-Tinder-2015-10
3. http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/the-best-countries-to-find-a-tinder-friend_us_54f76917e4b0e5537faa8834
4. https://www.huffingtonpost.com/antonio-borrello-phd/the-shocking-truth-about-_7_b_8011462.html

 

[Judge]

What ultimately counts is whether or not you and the other person in question are actually willing to go on a physical date. And prepared to deal with everything whether good or bad in real time that it can involve. Age alone has no limits when it comes to dating.

Though such things must ultimately be your decision, Rich. Not ours.

I can only tell you that in my own experience, I could never be myself under such contrived and ritualistic conditions with dating as a social convention. That all my girlfriends came about from being my friend first and foremost. Never the result of a "date" regarding someone I didn't really know or like at the time. However I did try that once with an arranged, totally "blind date". It was a regrettable experience.

For me dating itself was always a social convention that I chose to reject. Admittedly making friends is a much longer process requiring patience with no guarantees, yet it provided a comfort level that allowed me to be who I really am, whether for a friend or someone who eventually became more than that.

 

[xudo]

I wouldn't personally use it (if I were single). The only people I know who use Tinder are using it entirely for hook ups, not relationships. Obviously, that's not to say that everyone who uses it does that. I did meet my husband online though, on MySpace.

 

[Mr Allen]

I wouldn't personally use it (if I were single). The only people I know who use Tinder are using it entirely for hook ups, not relationships. Obviously, that's not to say that everyone who uses it does that. I did meet my husband online though, on MySpace.

You were one of the lucky ones then

 

[Jacoby]

I played around with it, I didn't get any matches afaik

probably not the best place for people not very experienced with relationships

 

[Aeolienne]

I never fancy anyone at first sight, so it would seem pointless having to make a snap judgement on a photo. That said, I do use Bumble - not that I've had anything out of it other than a few message exchanges. I keep meaning to make my profile more detailed; it's annoying that I can't do it on a computer, only via the mobile app.