Aspergers_Aspie
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Being asked how you feel, do you mind that? Do you have difficulty answering that question?
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Fans of Star Trek will know At the beginning of Star Trek IV: The Voyage Home Spock is puzzled when asked in a computer test: 'How do you feel?'
Being asked how you feel, do you mind that? Do you have difficulty answering that question?
At my work place people ask how you are without so much as slowing down for an answer. It's literally just a greeting.
"Hey how are you?"
"Fine you?"
I think it's a bit weird but I'm used to it and roll with it.
If it's a serious question it really depends on who is asking. I have to know the person well in order to be comfortable answering honestly.
My autism therapist was very helpful in regard to giving me explanation about office dynamics for my work. She told me that the "How are you?" is just a greeting like you said and the person asking isn't really asking because that want a response which doesn't seem logical to me.
She also gave me pointers on responses. For example, she told me if someone asks how my vacation was, I should answer with a short response such as: "It was very nice." and leave it at that unless the person asks additional questions.
She also told me that bosses assume and know that when they go on vacation, the office will slack in doing their work and that bosses understanding this generally don't care. We got on this topic because I'd commented how when the boss is on vacation, the office seems to grind to a halt with workers sitting and chatting with each other for long periods during the day.
Very diffucult. Hate that question... I am always strugling with it, even though I know that I should answer: good, how do you feel?Being asked how you feel, do you mind that? Do you have difficulty answering that question?