Hopeless_Aspie_Guy
Well-Known Member
Would life be easier for you if perhaps you didn’t get the annoying hope raising questions of – “So have you got a girlfriend?” or “Do you have kids? ”. Two things I’d wish people would never ask because I just want it to be obvious to the very type of people who’d unknowingly reject me as a friend or lover not to mention the false hope and encouragement it raises. Suddenly you don’t get asked any of this because your ‘condition’ excuses you from wanting a relationship or ever being able to get one.
Or perhaps you’d be able to skip out on those hope raising situations where someone is seemingly friendly with you (maybe even a group of people) and yet the more you act like you, the more alienated you feel. Perhaps they could just avoid you from the start or alter their behavior around you to however they’d be mutually comfortable.
Or the employer who knows you have aspergers and what aspergers is and thus knows you’re not suited for the role (as it involves building relationships with strangers or peddling sales to customers who don’t want your product) rather than you going through the whole process of having to find out yourself.
Or that person who pushes you with “Yes you can do it”, not realizing that having aspergers means it genuinely is much harder to do this task.
Perhaps people might be a bit more forgiving about the things you can’t help but do (even if it’s against your will). Speeches made to large groups wavered. Invites to parties….wavered. All that hassle because perhaps you can’t keep a job…..wavered.
Perhaps you could do what you do in life without being ostracized and made to feel like a weirdo “You make records of xyz, you weirdo, oh ok yer you have aspergers, sorry I forgot”.
Or perhaps you’d be able to skip out on those hope raising situations where someone is seemingly friendly with you (maybe even a group of people) and yet the more you act like you, the more alienated you feel. Perhaps they could just avoid you from the start or alter their behavior around you to however they’d be mutually comfortable.
Or the employer who knows you have aspergers and what aspergers is and thus knows you’re not suited for the role (as it involves building relationships with strangers or peddling sales to customers who don’t want your product) rather than you going through the whole process of having to find out yourself.
Or that person who pushes you with “Yes you can do it”, not realizing that having aspergers means it genuinely is much harder to do this task.
Perhaps people might be a bit more forgiving about the things you can’t help but do (even if it’s against your will). Speeches made to large groups wavered. Invites to parties….wavered. All that hassle because perhaps you can’t keep a job…..wavered.
Perhaps you could do what you do in life without being ostracized and made to feel like a weirdo “You make records of xyz, you weirdo, oh ok yer you have aspergers, sorry I forgot”.