Plumeria
Well-Known Member
As an NT, its very easy to feel rejected while in a relationship with an aspie, but do you often feel rejected as well? For example, let say you need "space" and your partner gives you space but also doesn't contact you during that time (just waiting for you to initiate contact when you are ready). If you don't realize they are waiting for YOU to make contact, would you take that lack of contact as something negative?
Or, let say, your partner use to ask you a lot of questions about your interests -- and you enjoyed talking with them. But then you noticed that they stopped asking. What you dont know is that they stopped asking because you never asked them questions, and they felt like you didnt care. Not knowing that they stopped asking because their feelings were hurt, would you think that they stopped because they dont care about you anymore? And if they are quieter than normal, do you assume they are mad at you?
I know communication is important in both of these scenarios but lets say that neither party communicated and only "analyzed" the situation from their point of view. If both parties feel rejected in the relationship, I can see how it could easily end.
Or, let say, your partner use to ask you a lot of questions about your interests -- and you enjoyed talking with them. But then you noticed that they stopped asking. What you dont know is that they stopped asking because you never asked them questions, and they felt like you didnt care. Not knowing that they stopped asking because their feelings were hurt, would you think that they stopped because they dont care about you anymore? And if they are quieter than normal, do you assume they are mad at you?
I know communication is important in both of these scenarios but lets say that neither party communicated and only "analyzed" the situation from their point of view. If both parties feel rejected in the relationship, I can see how it could easily end.