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Do you do the Aspie Stare?

I hadn't realized that my stare is so obvious. I went donating blood the other day and the nurse asked me five times if I was ok. They usually ask once if at all. I never get nauseated while giving blood, seeing needles or seeing blood of others or my own splurt around. Maybe I was just staring and making her confused. Oh well.
 
I think I'm pretty lucky with mine in that everyone I spend time with are used to my expression (or lack thereof). When I first got with my fianc? he used to ask me if I was OK like 4 times a day, but now he just lets me get on with it. Whatever 'it' is :)
 
I do it a lot. I wear sunglasses when I'm in public most of the time.That way if do the "Aspie stare" I don't offend people or make them feel uncomfortable.
 
I have always been able to fake a believable smile for pictures, but I still do like having my picture taken. I have pics from my early years and the smiles are so natural, now they are forced. :/
 
I don't stare, it just looks that way. I can't decide whether I should say, "actually, it was you who just walked into my field of vision, I was already looking that way and thinking about something entirely else." It's true, but even I can see how it would be rude.

Actually, that's not so… but I can only envision their reaction to be deeply insulted, so I don't.
 
image.webp well, do I?
 
Yes, usually only when I'm zoning out at home or in class. I never ever stare at PEOPLE though, it's always objects. Because I hate it when people stare at me, so I take into consideration not to stare at them. Haha, but yeah I can really go deep into thought and just look totally dead. I always avoid eye contact with people though, because I find it difficult to talk while looking into their eyes, and I'm also afraid I'd start staring.
 
Galaxy Freeze said:
Yes, usually only when I'm zoning out at home or in class. I never ever stare at PEOPLE though, it's always objects. Because I hate it when people stare at me, so I take into consideration not to stare at them. Haha, but yeah I can really go deep into thought and just look totally dead. I always avoid eye contact with people though, because I find it difficult to talk while looking into their eyes, and I'm also afraid I'd start staring.
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Well, I don't generally stare at people intentionally, but when I start thinking on particular subjects, people can walk into my field of view and I won't notice. Then I'll wind up staring at them for who knows how long and...

Awkward situations often result.
 
I smile in all photos. I love smiling in photos because I feel prettier. But I do the aspie stare when I'm alone or in a deep thought.
 
Yea I think I do. There are a bunch of pictures of me doing this. I can now kind of realize when I am doing it and it feels like a lot haha.
 
Yep, all the time. I can't fake smile at all, and never smile in photos because I don't know how without looking very strange. I don't like pictures of myself for that reason. When I'm focused or thinking, I usually have a constant furrowed brow, though. That's really the only other face I make (at least that I realize). The only time I really smile is when I'm laughing. Otherwise, even if I was smiling, I wouldn't be able to tell. Sometimes I feel like I'm smiling, but I'm actually not. Its very strange.
 
Usually when I am very tired (72+ hours awake) the stare and blank expression is clearly evident, most other times a smile plays on my lips, something between a Cheshire Cat Grin and a Cat Smile. I've received mixed reviews on how natural the smile appears, I also do things like close my eyes and tilt my head to the side and make a little te-he sound in my throat. My playful nature borders on the extreme, I like to stare straight at people and force their eyes to meet mine, making the blush or look away quickly, which sends a shiver of amusement down my spine. :bounce:
 
I always make a point to smile for pictures (even though it feels weird and fake), but I've noticed that my posture and expression usually looks exactly the same. Fun observation, though. Last time I was having my picture taken (for a costume party, so I was in character, and not smiling), my sister remarked that I'm "always scowling." So, maybe I'm not as good about always smiling as I thought? Hmm...
 
I guess I do too. More often than not. Might explain why people are more apt to ask me if there's something wrong than simply say, "Hello".
 
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