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Conversation / Thread Killing

VictorR said:
Is anyone else good at killing conversations (real life) or discussion threads (online)?

Life example:
Colleague: That's a nice lunch you have there Vic. Did your wife make it for you?
Me: Uh, no. I made it myself. It's leftovers from dinner last night. And I don't have a wife.
Colleague walks away.
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A real man can make his own lunches.:)
 
There is an old slang term from a strange culture. A "chiller" is someone who can alter the odds at a gaming table in a casino. The chiller can kill a winning streak. At a party, the chiller is like a bad smell at dinner. Everyone stops having fun and goes home
 
Progster said:
Stuff like this happens to me all the time.

I think you gave him an answer that was unexpected or off-script, it threw him and he didn't have a reply, so he just walked away.

It's also up to him to keep the conversation going, not just up to you - he could have replied with any number of things, but didn't. This is a failing on his part, not yours. There is a tendency on our part to think that, because we have ASD, that any communication failure must be our fault, but that's just not true: NTs often have problems, often don't know what to say to continue the conversation, often don't have really great social skills.
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I remember the first time I realized that a communication 'breakdown' was actually not my fault, and was in fact, the other persons!! WOW! Mindblowing! ... But as my SLP at the time like to say, "communication takes 2 people".
 
WolfSpirit said:
I remember the first time I realized that a communication 'breakdown' was actually not my fault, and was in fact, the other persons!! WOW! Mindblowing! ... But as my SLP at the time like to say, "communication takes 2 people".
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What is SLP?
 
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