My name is Dakota and im an aspie from San Antonio Texas, I'm new to the website, so anyones opinions would be very much appriciated. My issue with having aspergers is that I have issues with telling lies,so I am honest and sometimes my honesty comes off as mean. Well the last few months I have been on a few dating sites I told the truth about my diagnosis up front. My therepist told me to do this since alot of relationships I have ended after my former girlfriends found out. I read profiles and the women on the sites say the want honesty.It is a headache to say the least. How do aspies date? I don't understand.
They don't really want honesty up front.
When it comes to online dating it's a lot like online shopping. Next prospect is a click or swipe away.
To provide an example. If you read a girls profile and it says she is bi polar, has 2 kids, medical bills, self proclaimed crazy and unemployed. Pure honesty. Most guys looking for long term would move on.
Now. Lets say that same girl kept most of that stuff off her profile. The main profile had interests, hobbies.Positive traits. Well then y'all may go on date. This is where you can find if you actually like each other. Then over time those other things will surface and one could balance the pros and cons.
With being upfront and honest about some of your struggles that meeting or date never takes place. Feelings don't develop. Chemistry is absent. The cons weigh down the scale heavily since they haven't met you to assess positives.
In my opinion, you should save the aspie reveal for a later time. Maybe 3rd date? Not including it in your profile doesn't make it dishonest.
Could still be honest and upfront about your positive traits in profile but do keep in mind something like honesty cannot be assessed until you've spoken or hung out with the person for a while.
If they break up with you over it, just shows they aren't worth your time. Going to message you a link that might be helpful. Good luck!
