Jonathan Lees
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Hello, my name is Jonathan and I am an aspergic Master's student in leicester.
For a few months I have been involved with a girl henceforth called T.
It was going really well meeting multiple times a week, but then over the Christmas break T who is an exchange student went back to her home country.
Over the break I tried to keep in contact with the odd message every once in a while (every few days to a week or even longer so definitely not over the top) and tagged her in the odd posts I thought she may like (again not super regularly).
She while replying consistently but was barely putting any effort in the conversation often replying in as few words as possible and never giving back which made the conversation feel one sided.
I am someone who enjoys conversation so the lack of effort on her part really upset me.
I decided I'd ask T upfront if there was any issue between us, she said that she thought I was trying to distract her from her life at home, I responded that this was not the intention at all and that if I like someone I like to talk to them every once in a while.
I don't think I was excessively messaging her, I talked with plenty of my friends far more over the same period including ex's with no complaints about my messages and their number and with her lack of effort in response reduced my messages massively to give her space.
Now she has returned but she seems fairly uninterested in meeting up and hanging out the way we did before the break which has left me very confused.
I do not know what has changed or why, but the whole ordeal has upset me.
Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated.
For a few months I have been involved with a girl henceforth called T.
It was going really well meeting multiple times a week, but then over the Christmas break T who is an exchange student went back to her home country.
Over the break I tried to keep in contact with the odd message every once in a while (every few days to a week or even longer so definitely not over the top) and tagged her in the odd posts I thought she may like (again not super regularly).
She while replying consistently but was barely putting any effort in the conversation often replying in as few words as possible and never giving back which made the conversation feel one sided.
I am someone who enjoys conversation so the lack of effort on her part really upset me.
I decided I'd ask T upfront if there was any issue between us, she said that she thought I was trying to distract her from her life at home, I responded that this was not the intention at all and that if I like someone I like to talk to them every once in a while.
I don't think I was excessively messaging her, I talked with plenty of my friends far more over the same period including ex's with no complaints about my messages and their number and with her lack of effort in response reduced my messages massively to give her space.
Now she has returned but she seems fairly uninterested in meeting up and hanging out the way we did before the break which has left me very confused.
I do not know what has changed or why, but the whole ordeal has upset me.
Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated.