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Discussion in 'General Autism Discussion' started by BradT, Dec 4, 2019 at 3:30 PM.

  1. BradT

    BradT Well-Known Member

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    I'm having some troubles in college, not from an academic perspective, but from a social perspective. I feel like noone likes me even though I haven't done anything. The way some of these students look at me makes me think they feel uncomfortable around me. I'm 31 years old with a bunch of early 20 year olds, but still I don't think that would be the reason they would look at me funny.
     
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    AuBurney Tuckerson ~GigglesTheAutisticHyena~

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    I'm 20, and I often catch people staring or looking at me funny. I just glare back at them.
     
  3. BradT

    BradT Well-Known Member

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    I feel like a young adult with a bunch of kids.
     
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    Are you sure it's not only your impression?

    What are the objective elements of their behavior you believe are "funny"?
     
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  5. Darwin

    Darwin Active Member

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    College troubles? Yup. No friends, bullying, staring, etc. I am happy, though, that I am superior academically and intellectually, but hoping to find someone I respect and like in the future.
     
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  6. clg114

    clg114 Still crazy, after all these years. Staff Member V.I.P Member

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    You get treated that way because you are different from almost everyone else. NTs do not like different. They like to be like everyone in their group. Sometimes I get a little envious of their social abilities, but there is nothing I can do about that. So I just take advantage of my abilities and enjoy being a Aspie.
     
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  7. BradT

    BradT Well-Known Member

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    Not bullied, well because they know better lol.
     
  8. BradT

    BradT Well-Known Member

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    Honestly though? Everyone just does there own thing and don't really bother anyone.
     
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    Yes, I get bullied. From a psychological perspective, I noticed that some of my bullies subconsciously use body language suggestive of over-confidence (which is just a sign of stubbornness,) while others actually subconsciously use body language showing self-esteem issues when talking to others. It was interesting when I first noticed that. Funny, no?
     
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    clg114 Still crazy, after all these years. Staff Member V.I.P Member

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    That goes to show that people who bully other people, are not the most stable people that you will encounter.
     
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    That’s right. Most people, however, avoid others who they find weird or who they don’t understand. It’s annoying, but we have to admit that we, as neurodiverse people, do the same with others who we find weird. It’s a human instinct that actually has been very important for our survival but, unfortunately, it is not perfect.
     
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    I haven't been bothered though, except for a few weird stares. I've gotten along with almost everyone.
     
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    BradT Well-Known Member

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    But those few weird stares gets on my nerves.
     
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    To bad to hear this. Maybe you could join a club to get to know these people better.
     
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    BradT Well-Known Member

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    I'm a commuter though so I do wonder the residents do on campus while I'm not there.
     
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    If they ever were to come up to my face though and call me a "retard:", "fag" or any of that ****, they will be bloodied on the ground.
     
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    It is good that you have courage, but I prefer to just ignore them. Generally, when someone does something, it is because they have some goal, which, in case of bullying, is mostly to see the bullied person's submissive reactions or just annoy him/her. If you just ignore them completely as if nothing has happened, they will not get the "reward" they were looking for, and will eventually stop. In my case, they also respected me, and, believe it it not, 1 of them tried to be friends with me. This takes longer time, though, but it is not risky.
     
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    As someone who is in a similar age and situation I don't think you need to feel bad of being older than your classmates.

    I am 29yo and I'm also in college/university, I have had some anxiety related issues so I have been in college more time than "normal" (I finally graduate next year). I'm currently around 5-6 years older than the rest of my classmates (and lastt semester I had a 19yo classmate so figure it out) and I have had some other ones who are older than me. Once I had to work with a guy who entered college in 1987 and he still was taking classes; just a couple of weeks ago I finished the semester and I worked with a guy who entered in 1993, both of them with families. My point is, there's no shame in being older than your classmates; there are a lot of reasons for that to happend; in the case of my older classmates they started working while studying or got married and left studies aside, but the important thing is not to give up and if you want something just go for it.

    It may be something cultural in some countries; but at least from where Iam from and many of my classmates believes is that age doesn't matter, sure sometimes that "generational gap" can be weird but there's a lot of respect in those students who never gave up and want to accomplish their goal.

    Remember don't feel bad for being older, be confident in yourself! You can learn something new from you classmates and your classmates can learn something from you too! Hell I have learned a lot about working experience and stuff from my older classmates.