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Cherokee

FayetheADHDsquirrel

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Cherokee - that was the name of my horse. She was a good horse and a good friend. My Mama and I have been having to mend fences almost every day often in several places. The horses were usually still in the pasture when we got there. If they were out they would be nibbling grass not far outside the fence. She was even left stuck multiple times with her foot stuck between the middle and bottom wire and was such a good girl she would stay so still for us to help her. She was even left standing in the water back one time when it snowed and such a good girl when we rescued her. Every time we moved the horses, problems seemed to follow. This pasture has been the worst but we couldn't move them because I couldn't get a job. She got killed in the road early early this morning. Her passing leaves a hole in both mine and my Mama's hearts that will likely never go away in out lifetimes. I want to dedicate this thread to her and hope to discuss some of the good times in later posts. Meanwhile, my Mama went ahead and surrendered her horse to someone where she should be safe because we know she will be dead soon too if we kept her the way things have escalated. Even though her horse is still alive, she will be missed terribly as well.
 
She was such a gentle horse that I could crawl between her feet. I remember sitting down in the hay back when we had one of those rounds and they would both eat around me. I used to like doing that in the winter to block the cold wind and spend time with them.
 
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I am so, so sorry to hear about this, looks like she was a genuinely solid horse and people don't realize they're never "just horses." They're also friends.

It seems quite unfair that someone as nice as you seem to be, is dealing with the consequences of people's meanness on a daily basis.

Wish whoever's cutting fences got run over instead.
 
@FayetheADHDsquirrel

This is heartbreaking. So sad for you to lose both horses after all the love and care you gave them. What a sacrifice to send your Mama’s horse away so that she can be safe. You seemed to truly love your horses and I can’t even imagine your sadness right now.

It would be lovely to hear some of your stories about Cherokee and your Mama’s horse, too.

I hope you are comforted by some sweet and gentle things in the days ahead. 🤍
 
@Hazel_1914 They were supposed to have ran through this time, but we believe they were being chased because it is not like her to act like this. She would never go out in a road like that on her own.
 
I'm sorry for your big loss. Your horse looked very similar to my Ex's horse. My own first horse was euthanized 25 years ago and I still miss her. She would do the same as yours- she had a garden wire stuck in her shoe/hoof, and patiently waited hours? for me to notice it. I see the fence in the photo and I agree, that can be dangerous to them. But it is much better than my neighbor's filly- she's in a small enclosure surrounded by 4' tall wrought iron fencing with the spiked tips! I wonder what chased your horses?
 
I'm sorry for your big loss. Your horse looked very similar to my Ex's horse. My own first horse was euthanized 25 years ago and I still miss her. She would do the same as yours- she had a garden wire stuck in her shoe/hoof, and patiently waited hours? for me to notice it. I see the fence in the photo and I agree, that can be dangerous to them. But it is much better than my neighbor's filly- she's in a small enclosure surrounded by 4' tall wrought iron fencing with the spiked tips! I wonder what chased your horses?
That wasn't the part she was stuck in before.
 
When I first got Cherokee, I had recently taken horse lessons. The person who sold her to me thought a person needed to be mean to own a horse. She thought I was too soft. She was shocked one day when she found out I was doing balancing tricks on Cherokee's back. That's how good a horse she was. I could balance on my knees on her back. We had so much fun together in those early days.
 
This is so sad to read. I miss her, and l never met her. She is beautiful. I hope you can blow up a picture of her to put on your wall? l watch a show on TV called Pitbulls and Parolees. These rescue dogs have encountered horrific abuse.
You seem to be perfect in caring for horses. Have you thought about that as a career, or maybe working in a veterinarian offce? Sending condolences during a difficult time. :(
 
@Aspychata I doubt I ever own another horse again in my life. One of the first things I did when I got a job was save up and get my horse. Most young people wanted cars or trucks and tech gadgets. I didn't get any of those things. I didn't even have a cellphone until a few years later, yet it seemed like most people resented me having her. She was such a beautiful horse and I could scarcely believe that she was really mine. I felt so blessed to have her and even things like breaking through ice in the troughs in the winter seemed like a privilege of sorts. I got my Mama into horses and she got one probably about a few months after I did. I bought enough fence material with my own money to fence in the first acre for them because we had a house we were about to buy but then things did not work out. A big portion of my $1000 worth of horse fence material is still sitting in our own back yard going to waste. I continued to hold on to hope but my horse will never benefit from it now. Every pasture where we would put them some kind of problem would start and escalate and we would have to move them. At one of the earlier pastures for instance, the guy started whipping them for no good reason. We would come and find the whip marks and have to treat them. This time several different things started but we could not move them because I had lost my job and couldn't get a new one. Ironically, we thought we had found them a really good place this time, and for the first year or two it was great. There were beautiful hills for them to walk up and down for exercise and we thought it would get their muscles ready for their future home because we planned to move out west and get a place and the area was hilly.
 
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I'm so sorry for yo ur loss--I know your horse was family to you and there isn't anything that can replace that. My wish for you is to have a sense that your friend will stay with you in your heart. I don't believe in heaven or an afterlife, but I like to do a thought experiment that there is one...and that we will meet back up with our pets when we arrive there.
 

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