Checking Email while on AC

[OkRad]

I have a phobia of checking email, especially if I have gotten up the courage to email someone. THen they never respond. That happens all the time. Recently, with the mutism episode, I lost friends and emailed one a few days ago. No response. I do understand. No one can take the ups and downs.

I should have a separate email for "those people" who scare me so it's not with the one that I need to check for other things.

So now I will only check it when on AC so I can feel support from people who get it. So here I go.

<going to check now>

OUCH. Just checked. No response. They are mad because they are the kind to live with phone at their side. So it was not a matter of not seeing it. They check email every 5 mins.

I am sad but not as sad if I had not checked here on AC.

SO THANK YOU GUYS for just hanging out and being there.

 

[Suzanne]

Oh wow, that is so me, OkRad!

I sent my husband a huge email, because I had a meltdown the other night, due to a situation with him and he called my anger: senseless and so, I felt I had better defend myself and so, got down to sending him one and I must tell you, that it is like pressing the button on a bomb or something, because it really is a sense of: no going back now! I hyperventilated too, thinking: what is he going to say? Is he going to argue and cause more issues?

We spoke briefly and he said: no, I have not seen the email you sent me, which made me think: ouch and not long after that, I get a reply with a big smilie and since he has not talked about it, I am seeing that he agreed and taking it on board.

I hate clutter and that includes emails and notifcations, so I have to check my emails and often think after several days: well, that person doesn't like me very much and feel sad.

It is the same with texts too, but I am not given to flooding people with texts; too shy for that.

 

[Full Steam]

Beware assumptions. Emails have to fit in to people's lives, and a long or important email may not get replied to quickly as people have to stop, think and then write.

Also, people may not be able to deal with it at the time and may then forget

 

[Full Steam]

I have forum paranoia though.

" oh ****, does that sound like I'm preaching or condescending?"
:-SS

 

[Mr Allen]

My care company never responds to emails I send.

I have raised this as an issue with the social worker, but they still don't do it.

Also, it takes my Brother ages to respond to emails, OK he works full time and has 2 young kids, but he's my Brother, it shouldn't be this hard to talk to him.

 

[Southern Discomfort]

I get a bit of a phobia with important emails like if I'm getting in touch with someone I don't know about say, a job interview or when I was looking to start driving lessons. I get a feeling of dread in my stomach when I do get a response. I actually feel better when I don't have responses as hard and illogical as that might sound. Moving forward and change is very hard for me to handle in that regard.

 

[Mr Allen]

I get a bit of a phobia with important emails like if I'm getting in touch with someone I don't know about say, a job interview or when I was looking to start driving lessons. I get a feeling of dread in my stomach when I do get a response. I actually feel better when I don't have responses as hard and illogical as that might sound. Moving forward and change is very hard for me to handle in that regard.

At least people have the courtesy to respond to your emails mate, I sent my Taekwondo teacher a text last week about not training tonight and he still hasn't responded.

 

[Southern Discomfort]

At least people have the courtesy to respond to your emails mate, I sent my Taekwondo teacher a text last week about not training tonight and he still hasn't responded.

Fair point. There is that.