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Blog post compares us to psychopaths

The article was disgusting. Sure she had a bad experience with someone on the spectrum but it doesn't mean that we are all like that.
 
It should be noted that there is no way for her to be contacted on that despicable article. I think she knows what she wrote was wrong and doesn't want to be called out on it because she is afraid to lose her flock.

She says, "I will not publish or respond to any comments from anyone who is 'mindblind' because it is a futile effort and I don't want any more zero-empathy people in my life or wasting any of my time."

That's pretty f'd up. Blogs are about discussion, not one-sided hate speech. I get that she is entitled to her own opinions, no matter how messed up we, or any decent person in my opinion, see it, but who the hell is she to call an entire diagnosed community out as psychopaths?

Call me unprofessional, call me uninformed. But that woman is S-I-C-K sick.
 
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Do you guys out there have any idea how may marriages/relationships go bad out there. And the ones that go bad because one of the partners is an aspie represents less then 1% of that total. Let's just face it. She just got into a bad relationship. it just happens.

Although, it makes me wonder if that aspie guy in the relationship didn't realize that he really needed to just be himself in order to make a relationship work in the long term. According to the article. He was faking it and putting on a show for her just to get married, not knowing that once you cross that line. That mask is going to come off and your true self will be reveled. And that exactly what happen in this relationship.
 
She says she is not a mental health professional in her opener. Wish she would not act like she is one, or even worse, someone who thinks their opinion is absolute in its correctness. She does not give her age, but I detect immaturity and so suspect she is relatively young. Still, that is no excuse. She is not a child.

Unfortunately, because she might otherwise have some useful things to say, she should be publicly identified as ignorantly biased against Aspies.

I am unaware of a specific term for such people. Other groups have generally accepted terms for people who are biased against them. Things like Racist, Anti-Semitic, Sexist, etc.

What do we call these people who persecute Autistics? You can call them Aspie 'Haters' I suppose, but that is an overused term these days and has lost some value as a result. She has NT supremicist aspects but that is not the whole picture either.

btw, I have a 30 year AS/NT mixed marriage and we are doing fine thankyou, Miss Birch.
 
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She says she is not a mental health professional in her opener. Wish she would not act like she is one, or even worse, someone who thinks their opinion is absolute in its correctness. She does not give her age, but I detect immaturity and so suspect she is relatively young. Still, that is no excuse. She is not a child.

Unfortunately, because she might otherwise have some useful things to say, she should be publicly identified as ignorantly biased against Aspies.

I am unaware of a specific term for such people. Other groups have generally accepted terms for people who are biased against them. Things like Racist, Anti-Semitic, Sexist, etc.

What do we call these people who persecute Autistics? You can call them Aspie 'Haters' I suppose, but that is an overused term these days and has lost some value as a result. She has NT supremicist aspects but that is not the whole picture either.

btw, I have a 30 year AS/NT mixed marriage and we are doing fine thankyou, Miss Birch.
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Well it's discriminating, isn't it?
 
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/shadow-boxing/201402/aspergers-disorder-vs-psychopathy

"The most significant difference is the lack of remorse in psychopaths, along with their propensity to manipulate, blame others, and exploit situations and people."

I read the entire blog buckyboy14 looked at all the references, know some of the studies she quoted. Keep in mind that the Baron Cohen studies are of children with autism, many preschool age. There are very few studies of adults on the spectrum to make any serious sweeping generalizations about. Ignore her summations, this is an opinion blog and one in which she uses findings that don't apply to adults on the spectrum.

Adults on the spectrum are a relative unknown, many un-diagnosed, a large contingent of which have functioned in the real world long before any applicable or concrete definition existed. The criteria for diagnosing Autism is wide. It manifests differently from one person on the spectrum to another.

Interestingly, I noticed that as an allist or neurotypical she expressed little empathy for others. Something of a conundrum there.

Note: Many of the conclusions she states are based in false premise. Some of them are common fallacies such as:

excluded middle (or false dichotomy): considering only the extremes. Many people use Aristotelian either/or logic tending to describe in terms of up/down, black/white, true/false, love/hate, etc

confirmation bias (similar to observational selection): This refers to a form of selective thinking that focuses on evidence that supports what believers already believe while ignoring evidence that refutes their beliefs.

composition fallacy: when the conclusion of an argument depends on an erroneous characteristic from parts of something to the whole or vice versa.

half truths (suppressed evidence): A statement usually intended to deceive that omits some of the facts necessary for an accurate description.

There are so many that she's tripped up on, her conclusions are erroneous, and say more about her ability to think than they do about people on the spectrum. They are her opinion only.
 
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Autiphobe, Autiphobic are maybe some good terms.

(or something similar - not a spelling champ here)
 
I have always hated the labels that are chosen for each guess at what was different. As humans,we all follow unique patterns due to both genetic and external influences. Yeah,we got wired a little differently as auties,but it doesn't mean we are all bonkers either. I think a lot of it gets media hyped when autism and nasty events are involved because so little of it is understood about it and it draws ratings.The blogger was after her own ratings for heavens knows what.Starved for attention? When someone goes off on a psychological bender,there might not be a way of deciding how and why they unraveled,because unless the person who is trying to decipher what went wrong actually experienced it,they can only offer their opinion like our blogger did.


After reading that bloggers story,you also have to consider the fact that you only read one side of it...what if she was the actual nutcase and not the auties?
 
What an awful article. This woman does not cite any proof, she just makes baseless accusations that all Aspies are like this.

The claim that we do not understand our own disorder is ridiculous. Having read through many of the posts on autism forums, I can say that most of us do understand our own disorder. Maybe she's just saying this because we don't subscribe to her bigoted ideas about this.

"Zero-empathy disorder"? This claim, because it is so absolute, can be debunked by even one example of an Aspie feeling empathy, of which there are many. I can read people's body language fairly well, and if I think one of my friends looks upset, I ask them what is wrong and then try to comfort and reassure them. I am also an Aspie.

Her theories about mindblindness seem ironic, when she seems unable to understand the struggles Aspies go through. If she had proper empathy for us, she would understand that we sometimes have trouble knowing how we are supposed to react, and that it's not our fault. She accuses us of making it "all about us", but she is making it all about NTs, with no regard for Aspies' feelings. She seems mindblind in the sense of being unable to understand and empathize with people who are different from herself.

The things she accuses us of doing (telling someone they look fat, not asking how your day was, etc) are generalizations. Not all Aspies behave like this. We may not pick up social skills innately, but we learn them. Some Aspies are rude, selfish people, but this can't be generalized to all of us.

People fight. People do things that others find selfish. People fail to consider others' perspectives. This is true for all humans, Aspie or NT. Relationships fail all the time. You can't blame a single condition for it; rather, it is the result of the flawed nature of humans. It is true that people with AS may sometimes be hard to deal with. But this woman's view on Asperger's is hateful and prejudiced. She is using a few bad relationship stories to justify her irrational hatred of a group of people that are already frequently bullied and abused.

Just my random thoughts on this article.
 
My honest opinion, this lady needs something that we can't give her and she's trying to find it on the internet. I'm not sure what...but something.
 
Interesting sidebar disclaimer:

"All content is viewed and used by you at your own risk and we do not warrant the accuracy or reliability of any of the information."

As with any other animal, It's very telling how people choose to cover their tracks.
 
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My honest opinion, this lady needs something that we can't give her and she's trying to find it on the internet. I'm not sure what...but something.
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Possibly tender-loving care. But I sure as hell ain't giving it to a closed-minded discriminatrix.
 
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Possibly tender-loving care. But I sure as hell ain't giving it to a closed-minded discriminatrix.
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You're right but like naturalist pointed out in the "disclaimer" that lady's point wasn't educational it was to rip into a tiny minority to make herself feel better, now why would I as an autistic care about someone like her.
 
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