Sometimes I'm well balanced. Making a lot of social faux pas- messing up a few potentially good friendships/relationships and getting relatively manipulated/mistreated by others or having to fight those kind of people have helped me to appreciate how to deal with future situations. I know that I'm not one for small talk if it's not work related. So, if, for instance, a person I barely know wants me to add them to Facebook, instead of just accepting or telling them "no" directly, I tell them that I only like to add people that I hang out with 1-1 outside and organized group. Then I invite them to an outing at my convenience of something that I like. 99% of people don't take me up on this, and that's okay. No one can complain that I didn't give them a chance. Some get annoyed. Too bad, lol.