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Besides attending the game store two or three times a week, socializing feels nonexistent for me.

I am turning 37 tomorrow. Has anything changed for me? Aside from making more attempts to socialize, I still haven’t achieved most of the things I wish I had.
 
Markness said:
I am turning 37 tomorrow. Has anything changed for me? Aside from making more attempts to socialize, I still haven’t achieved most of the things I wish I had.
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Do you notice what you just did in this post?

Discounted your own efforts.

"Aside from making...."

Thinking of your life as an all or nothing process makes you discouraged.
Give yourself credit.
 
tree said:
@Markness

What does "attend a local game store" mean?
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When I think of such sentiments, it reminds me of my past love of spending a great deal of time pleasantly going over things like software in stores like Egghead (which no longer exist) or "brick and mortar" hobby shops that are pretty much extinct.

When I felt totally comfortable talking to strangers about products, whether they were customers or part of the sales staff. I miss such experiences very much.

And going to Fry's Electronics...well....that was like Disneyland for geeks. :p

Funny to think in earlier times, it was making my weekly pilgrimage to Tower Records. :cool:
 
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Sometimes the people at the game store can be rude and it diminishes my interest in going.
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I agree with you 💯. That stops me from going to certain places until I can't handle it any more. What irritates me is usually what draws me is a kind woman there that I see a few times, then she basically drops off the face of the earth while the jerks keep staying until I can't remain.
 
Fortunately, I am not alone in that feeling because other people I mentioned this issue to agreed with me.
 
Markness said:
I’ve essentially stopped going to the game store now.
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It sounds like you're sinking into severe depression and giving up on life. Please find things to do that you enjoy doing for their own sake and don't view activities as merely a way to meet women. Please find a way to love yourself, entertain yourself, educate yourself about something new and build pride and self-confidence in yourself. When you exhibit a happy demeanor, people will be much more attracted and interested in spending time with you.

I'm rooting for you, Mark. Contentment MUST come from within you, not from some external force.
 
Tony Ramirez said:
Good. Do it for your sanity.
I have to stop going to Bryant Park. I stopped Roots Café even for the free Wi-Fi and food.
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Are you still gardening? Are you doing anything for the purpose of learning something new and enjoying something totally independent of looking for women?
 
I used Discord again for the past several months, even though being on it before has generally brought me stress and anxiety. I did it because I thought I had to make myself tolerate being on it and a group in Austin I thought I wanted to be a part of has a server on it. The same issues that made me dislike the platform were still there and I had to stop using it again.
 
I’ve fallen back into one of my old habits of staying up at night and wondering why I still don’t have a partner.
 
It's Friday night and you have a home to go to.

But your expectation is that 'going out,' being
somewhere other than home is necessary for
a happy/successful life.
 
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