Another question for the community.
I am an NT dating someone whom I love and suspect is on the spectrum. I realize we speak different languages to an extent. I think it's more likely that I can learn aspects of his language than he can learn of mine and I'm totally fine trying to do that.
I'm trying to figure this out. When we have misunderstandings, like he comes across as rude, abrupt or controlling because doesn't realize it, is there some way I can communicate my point of view, if this is possible at all?
Let me give an example. One day we were driving to his home. He asked why I chose the route I did. For every reason I gave, he had a reason it was illogical. It was longer, farther, through a bad part of town (according to him). He could not understand why I didn't take the closest exit to the highway. I explained that I do things based on preference and feelings sometimes. I don't always choose the most logical option. Of course, he had no clue what I was talking about and I just said to him he wasn't going to understand it and was going to have to be okay with that.
Is there any way to turn that conversation into something that would make sense to him? I'm just looking for examples that I can use for other such communication challenges.
thanks.
I am an NT dating someone whom I love and suspect is on the spectrum. I realize we speak different languages to an extent. I think it's more likely that I can learn aspects of his language than he can learn of mine and I'm totally fine trying to do that.
I'm trying to figure this out. When we have misunderstandings, like he comes across as rude, abrupt or controlling because doesn't realize it, is there some way I can communicate my point of view, if this is possible at all?
Let me give an example. One day we were driving to his home. He asked why I chose the route I did. For every reason I gave, he had a reason it was illogical. It was longer, farther, through a bad part of town (according to him). He could not understand why I didn't take the closest exit to the highway. I explained that I do things based on preference and feelings sometimes. I don't always choose the most logical option. Of course, he had no clue what I was talking about and I just said to him he wasn't going to understand it and was going to have to be okay with that.
Is there any way to turn that conversation into something that would make sense to him? I'm just looking for examples that I can use for other such communication challenges.
thanks.