I have an ex-date, also on the spectrum (ironically), who has kept me connected to him through social media for months. He basically broke it off with me, and I am completely at fault for the situation to have occurred.
For months, I dug into my own personality, and many factors that affected me. I have discovered a lot about myself and have (a) new awareness(es) that I didn't have before.
The whole connection thing bothered me, but I didn't want to delete the connections because I am minutely hoping. It almost feels like there's still a minute interest for him to keep me on for so long, but that the trust I broke was so strong that the damage is still unrepairable. I already apologized, it was accepted, and then I messed up after that basically.
I ended up writing a closure e-mail and sending it out sooner than I normally planned. I was glad I didn't rush since a certain type of authenticity would not have come out and it would've been way too cold. It turned out to be an e-mail which was completely positive and even offered him an opportunity to apply for a commensurate full time job.
I have not received a response nor expect to receive one. I shared the e-mail with some of my friends who told me not to send anything. When they saw it, they changed their minds about the whole thing and said I did the right thing for me, and in the right manner. I didn't feel they were just saying that.
No response has been received, nor do I expect one. It almost seems bad not to respond at all, but I see the hurt is so great and unbearable for him.
Honestly, I wanted to put more in that e-mail. Like "everything", but then "everything" would not be read and possibly quite misconstrued. The kind of stuff where apparently you only say it if you can talk with other(s) in-person. I remember seeing some threads where most people were saying e-mail and text are the "best forms of communication in the world." But like anything, there's a time and place one could be better than the other, better combined, and context need to be taken into consideration greatly.
All I can do is look around and let that situation "linger" it seems. Thoughts?
For months, I dug into my own personality, and many factors that affected me. I have discovered a lot about myself and have (a) new awareness(es) that I didn't have before.
The whole connection thing bothered me, but I didn't want to delete the connections because I am minutely hoping. It almost feels like there's still a minute interest for him to keep me on for so long, but that the trust I broke was so strong that the damage is still unrepairable. I already apologized, it was accepted, and then I messed up after that basically.
I ended up writing a closure e-mail and sending it out sooner than I normally planned. I was glad I didn't rush since a certain type of authenticity would not have come out and it would've been way too cold. It turned out to be an e-mail which was completely positive and even offered him an opportunity to apply for a commensurate full time job.
I have not received a response nor expect to receive one. I shared the e-mail with some of my friends who told me not to send anything. When they saw it, they changed their minds about the whole thing and said I did the right thing for me, and in the right manner. I didn't feel they were just saying that.
No response has been received, nor do I expect one. It almost seems bad not to respond at all, but I see the hurt is so great and unbearable for him.
Honestly, I wanted to put more in that e-mail. Like "everything", but then "everything" would not be read and possibly quite misconstrued. The kind of stuff where apparently you only say it if you can talk with other(s) in-person. I remember seeing some threads where most people were saying e-mail and text are the "best forms of communication in the world." But like anything, there's a time and place one could be better than the other, better combined, and context need to be taken into consideration greatly.
All I can do is look around and let that situation "linger" it seems. Thoughts?
