Autism and mind games and using religion to help

[Rachie]

Hi everyone, I had the chance to take part in an autism group for my borough and they listed one of the features of autism for some people is that they do not like mind games and they like being straight forward with people. This thread is open to all people and the reason I am putting it in this section is if any faith provides remedy for dealing with mind games from others, This can be like a hall of mirrors/mirage/delusions/illusions, masks=changing the attributes of people, mind manipulation of theirs creating mystery situations which are not present and maze's on you. I do not like doing maze type things and can feel agoraphobic and need to get out.

People who do this to you may be abusive. I get treated like this at times by one condition of mine.

e.g they will be telling me to turn around and there is nobody there and then I think something is happening and more. They do it to abuse my condition on purpose.

What does this scripture say about this, of course prayer helps, and what are your thoughts to.

This is open to everyone and the use of scripture and pointers are welcome. Jesus mentioned about the spirit of confusion and fear. God helps me to cope with this if it causes overwhelming but I need to find a remedy. Is this mind games an anxiety thing that someone can overcome if done to them and how.

Let's find the way out

I will add a handout that mentions autistics some may dislike mind games.

 

[Neonatal RRT]

Interesting perspective...that is, from a religious point of view. I don't subscribe to any religion, but what you are describing hits home...I can relate. As an adult, I haven't been subjected to this sort of behavior, but as a child and teenager, certainly...kids can be absolutely rotten and cruel to each other simply for entertainment value. Once certain people find your weaknesses, they can exploit them. In this case, because of our communication, social, and sensory issues some of us can have some degree of naivety, not picking up on intent (until it's too late), literalism, etc. We can be unwitting victims of some practical jokes...sometimes funny...and other times cruel, embarrassing, and harmful.

Neurotypical communication often revolves around indirect communication...using a certain language that makes the receiver go through the intellectual process of inferring or reading between the lines, as well as, establishing intent behind the message. Many autistics do not understand all of this mental juggling and would rather just get to the exact heart of the matter through some rather direct, sometimes short and rather blunt communication. Indirect language, in my opinion, is all about hiding and deception, but guised as politeness...rather twisted.

Throw in the added complexity of a manipulative personality disorder and then it can become abusive and toxic.

 

[NB79]

God values us highly, so what is more worth, a crappy bully opinion, or God's.
I say just ignore them, people that do that are not worth your time.

 

[NB79]

I actually don't know how people without God manage all the pressures, some don't and end up bad,
God promised help, and not to test you beyond your strength.

 

[Rachie]

Thank you everyone, all your comments are helpful. I am becoming to may be understand my life a bit more. When I was 17 I was told that God would give me a gift primarily for protection purposes. Recently at 52 I got to hear this and see it all come into fruition. May be this is one of the reasons why God did this for this particular behaviour of theirs. Most of my life they have been inactive but they found a loophole to come through. The Holy Spirit told me, justice is coming.

I try and do things to always remember who I am and how simple life can be. The world is round and spinning and intact and God is in charge.

 

[Xinyta]

It's a odd coincidence that I find this thread. I have been thinking about how my relationship with my parents, and others, has been based on a cycle of enabling and control. I unfortunately have been exposed to, and even engaged in, mind games for control of situations and people. Which explains why I have always struggled with conversations. Because it's always been a game in my head of being quiet or making excuses/lying, when silence isn't possible.

Not that I don't regret it. I do. But I hold it inside. I've done it for such a long time, that I give off the aura of not giving two craps about hardly anything that goes on.

As I've come along recently. I've started recognizing this. Part of how I am, is praying to God. I've been adamant in trying to sincerely seeking God for help. It's been a slow process.

 

[JayCee]

Am sorry being raised a devout Catholic as the third child out of five. My understanding
of my religion although being hopeful and much praying , My devout family life of the others in the family, perhaps only wishing to apoear as valuing religion. Was not to much of a surprise to me when I started to realize the extreme degree of hypocracy I had soent my early life being severely manipulated under to as to couch the degree of physical abuse my little sister and I lived under . And being indoctrinated into the Catholic religion through attending Parochial school , even attending retreats at a younger age . As time went on things made less and less sense. Real life did not correlate to anything like what I was living. Intimidation was the rule by which I lived under . So learning these things and the Power of Forgiveness allowed me to move forward inlife although badly stunted in my personal relationship. These are just my experiences around organized religion. But did make it through all that and although some terrible physical / emotional drawbacks .
And inspite of intial family dissolution.
Was able to get jobs and work and eventually moved that into a small business of my own
And model it upon my own fathers sole prpprietorship model of business . And please none of this is written to cause you to lose any faith in your own religion, but rather only to share my experiences. Regarding these things through eyes of my Aspie self.