Hello,
My name is Brittany. I'm self diagnosed with Autism. I don't have low support needs, but they aren't high either. I have my husband who assists me with communicating effectively and handling emotional outbursts.
I have two children. One who us 11. She is very independent, sees things in a very black and white manner is likely your more traditional type of Autism spectrum, but then I have an 8 year old boy who I suspect has issues with ADHD and Autism. He gets very overwhelmed with change. We've done very well helping him adapt to day to day changes and he can handle most of them without much upset. This isn't ideal to me, because I don't handle change well either and I don't want him masking his discomfort, but then comes soccer. He wants to play, but each new season means a new coach and with each new coach comes a new type of training and new changes to the "rules".
Since my son sees soccer as a game, he doesn't understand why soccer practice has changing rules. He really wants to do it, but I am so overwhelmed by his emotional outbursts that soccer has become a very negative thing for me. It's already loud and hot, but then we add him being stressed out and I really want to leave.
Today, his coach asked that they pass three times before scoring. Jeremiah didn't understand why he couldn't just score. Being self assessed, I don't feel comfortable explaining to the coach why Jeremiah has major issues with this change. I can understand the logic from the coach (he wants them to learn to pass) and the logic from my son (he wants to follow the rules), but I don't know how to explain to him that the rules change during practice. I've told him that, but he still doesn't get it. Please help.
My name is Brittany. I'm self diagnosed with Autism. I don't have low support needs, but they aren't high either. I have my husband who assists me with communicating effectively and handling emotional outbursts.
I have two children. One who us 11. She is very independent, sees things in a very black and white manner is likely your more traditional type of Autism spectrum, but then I have an 8 year old boy who I suspect has issues with ADHD and Autism. He gets very overwhelmed with change. We've done very well helping him adapt to day to day changes and he can handle most of them without much upset. This isn't ideal to me, because I don't handle change well either and I don't want him masking his discomfort, but then comes soccer. He wants to play, but each new season means a new coach and with each new coach comes a new type of training and new changes to the "rules".
Since my son sees soccer as a game, he doesn't understand why soccer practice has changing rules. He really wants to do it, but I am so overwhelmed by his emotional outbursts that soccer has become a very negative thing for me. It's already loud and hot, but then we add him being stressed out and I really want to leave.
Today, his coach asked that they pass three times before scoring. Jeremiah didn't understand why he couldn't just score. Being self assessed, I don't feel comfortable explaining to the coach why Jeremiah has major issues with this change. I can understand the logic from the coach (he wants them to learn to pass) and the logic from my son (he wants to follow the rules), but I don't know how to explain to him that the rules change during practice. I've told him that, but he still doesn't get it. Please help.