Attempts To Obtain A Job

[FayetheAspie]

@Aspychata I appreciate your attempts to help, but I can't afford more schooling right now. The lab I applied to is supposed to be reviewing applications. Hopefully I'll get a call soon.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

My sister and sister in law both before they gained employment, had interviews for great positions, then were so anxious they would not land the positions. Sister was at a mining company she had left a previous position due to being pregnant, got married had two more kids had left work force to raise kids. went back to school got masters degree in economics, she was already a geologist. The position, wanted somebody who could do currency trading. I just told her geologist, economist who else is qualified for this position why are your worried. yes she got the position became a super performer upper management noticed her. Got promoted to manager. My sister in law
went back to school to get her teaching certificate so she could join the public school system very well paying.
She already had a Phd in her home country. graduated the course two year program top of her class got pregnant
So applied for position at the most desirable school board city of Toronto. of course she got the position. My advise have faith in yourself, just be yourself during any interviews. It will happen.

 

[Aspychata]

Great, at least you know it's out there. You could always apply for scholarships.

 

[Ronald Zeeman]

Great, at least you know it's out there. You could always apply for scholarships.

Yes, never thought scholarship or bursary. You keep examining yourself through a microscope, This not what others see.

 

[paloftoon]

Times are really tough for looking for a job right now. If possible, try not to be too picky right now. Maybe look for somewhere that will accept you as a volunteer once a week for something that you like or might like.

Are you based in the US?
Are you open to in-person, hybrid, remote, traveling, moving for a job?

 

[paloftoon]

The three jobs I was able to sample for two hours each were a library job, (the guy that was over the library at the time said I was very "adept" at library work and my other skills were good enough to make up for my lack of computer skills), a floral shop (I got to make an arrangement and it was fun to learn and I also swept up the trimmings from the plants), and a plant nursery (they basically just used me to get their area cleaned up from old fall leaves and trash but I tried to make the best of it and the lady from the organization that went with me and I had a fun little sycamore seed fight as we picked up limbs and trash - like a snowball fight - the seeds were really soft and splattered on impact. That was the time that my career coach/counselor type person from the original organization got all distressed about not seeing "anger reactions". I still don't know why me not acting angry was a problem.

This sounds political. Like something was put together but they can't say the real reason why because the people you're working with don't want to be liable. Either that, or maybe your anger reactions might give this particular institution additional funds to work with sadly. Neither are good. Sounds like that particular place works with extremely low functioning people and probably can underpay them. Definitely need to find a better place for yourself than that.

 

[FayetheAspie]

This sounds political. Like something was put together but they can't say the real reason why because the people you're working with don't want to be liable. Either that, or maybe your anger reactions might give this particular institution additional funds to work with sadly. Neither are good. Sounds like that particular place works with extremely low functioning people and probably can underpay them. Definitely need to find a better place for yourself than that.

I have been out of both for some time. The one that took me to sample jobs had ended up hiring me after never being able to get me a job. They had me selling snacks in their snack bar. I was also to clean up the area between snack times. They said it looked the best that it had in a long time, but then kept adding more cleaning tasks including something they had promised me that I would not have to do because it triggered a specific phobia. When I tried to hold them to what they said they took me aside and started interrogating me about things like who I wanted to do it instead, how they could get me to do it, what exactly scared me. When I started rocking and it got harder to give complex answers they started demanding to know what I was thinking right now and being really forceful about needing to know. On at least one of the occasions they would not let me go back to work until they drove me to a laughing fit. I saw them torment a client before too. He was much more severe, barely verbal at all. He was excited about his craft project and started to go look at it on break, but they told him they would eat his food so he came back and started eating it down and they then looked at him like he was an idiot and told him in a disgusted tone that no one was going to eat his food. He looked like someone slapped him then started rocking along with an array of other large stims. I went to put in a job application by myself somewhere that they had filled in for me before and the old application was visible the way that system worked for the job I was wanting. I saw that they had put down false information about me on the application. They always wanted to act like I needed them to fill things out for me maybe that is why but I don't know. Either way they had false information on the application they filled out on my behalf and so they may have on others that they had filled out for me as well. Then they got me working for them after a while of me never getting jobs. I quit the job and didn't let them help me anymore either. Months later I quit the other program that had sent me to them as well.

 

[paloftoon]

I have been out of both for some time. The one that took me to sample jobs had ended up hiring me after never being able to get me a job. They had me selling snacks in their snack bar. I was also to clean up the area between snack times. They said it looked the best that it had in a long time, but then kept adding more cleaning tasks including something they had promised me that I would not have to do because it triggered a specific phobia. When I tried to hold them to what they said they took me aside and started interrogating me about things like who I wanted to do it instead, how they could get me to do it, what exactly scared me. When I started rocking and it got harder to give complex answers they started demanding to know what I was thinking right now and being really forceful about needing to know. On at least one of the occasions they would not let me go back to work until they drove me to a laughing fit. I saw them torment a client before too. He was much more severe, barely verbal at all. He was excited about his craft project and started to go look at it on break, but they told him they would eat his food so he came back and started eating it down and they then looked at him like he was an idiot and told him in a disgusted tone that no one was going to eat his food. He looked like someone slapped him then started rocking along with an array of other large stims. I went to put in a job application by myself somewhere that they had filled in for me before and the old application was visible the way that system worked for the job I was wanting. I saw that they had put down false information about me on the application. They always wanted to act like I needed them to fill things out for me maybe that is why but I don't know. Either way they had false information on the application they filled out on my behalf and so they may have on others that they had filled out for me as well. Then they got me working for them after a while of me never getting jobs. I quit the job and didn't let them help me anymore either. Months later I quit the other program that had sent me to them as well.

There are programs currently that hire based on higher functioning levels.
This particular one you're working with definitely works with lower functioning individuals and it sounds (much more) dehumanizing than what I have personally experienced.

I was hired through one such program.

That being said, I've had a number of people ask me for all kinds of information. Basically, I refuse to just give out such information unless so and so is willing to do a video chat with me first and tell me who they are. But if you find such information from others or online, then that is great!

The networking value is important for me in such a context.

 

[FayetheAspie]

I have been out of both for some time. The one that took me to sample jobs had ended up hiring me after never being able to get me a job. They had me selling snacks in their snack bar. I was also to clean up the area between snack times. They said it looked the best that it had in a long time, but then kept adding more cleaning tasks including something they had promised me that I would not have to do because it triggered a specific phobia. When I tried to hold them to what they said they took me aside and started interrogating me about things like who I wanted to do it instead, how they could get me to do it, what exactly scared me. When I started rocking and it got harder to give complex answers they started demanding to know what I was thinking right now and being really forceful about needing to know. On at least one of the occasions they would not let me go back to work until they drove me to a laughing fit. I saw them torment a client before too. He was much more severe, barely verbal at all. He was excited about his craft project and started to go look at it on break, but they told him they would eat his food so he came back and started eating it down and they then looked at him like he was an idiot and told him in a disgusted tone that no one was going to eat his food. He looked like someone slapped him then started rocking along with an array of other large stims. I went to put in a job application by myself somewhere that they had filled in for me before and the old application was visible the way that system worked for the job I was wanting. I saw that they had put down false information about me on the application. They always wanted to act like I needed them to fill things out for me maybe that is why but I don't know. Either way they had false information on the application they filled out on my behalf and so they may have on others that they had filled out for me as well. Then they got me working for them after a while of me never getting jobs. I quit the job and didn't let them help me anymore either. Months later I quit the other program that had sent me to them as well.

I was only at the aforementioned job 2 to 3 weeks, but wish I had never accepted the job. It has ruined my job record and I never got any job that I applied for or otherwise inquired about since. It has been about a year and a half. I thought at the time that it was the responsible thing to do. I loved the job that I had at a local herb shop but I could only work 4 hours ever other week on the day their truck came in and they needed extra help. Working for the company that I talked about above I would work almost 30 hours a week I believe it was. That was more income even with a lower dollar per hour amount so I gave up the job I liked to take the one I knew I wouldn't like in an effort to show responsibility, but it was a mistake.
As for the other organization that sent me to them, they were supposed to help me get a job as well. Originally, I thought they were going to teach me graphic design so I agreed to sign up for the program. It turned out that I was to old for them to teach apparently according to program rules or something. They brought in a physiatrist and I got my ASD and ADHD diagnostic impression. People kept wanting to find evidence of hallucinations/delusions but could not. There was that day when the counselor lady was all stressed about not seeing anger reactions after getting the report back from the second organization (the one I later worked at briefly). She pretty much ignored my symptoms of germophobia and would talk to me about making sure I shower and such which I do every day anyway and probably wash my hands more than I should. She would send me home with different projects like mood charts and such. She gave me paperwork on needing to learn empathy because of my laughing condition as though not understanding that certain things were not funny was the issue rather than it being mood incongruent. They never got me a job either and when they almost had me an internship the other organization apparently gave me a bad reference according to what I was told. They were also going to help me and my Mama get out of the house if my Dad got worse, but when he threatened us with a weapon they didn't get us out and even started trying to imply that Mama might be the real problem. I dropped out of that program too.
Ironically, my Dad and some woman he knew had been the ones to really push for me to do the original program. The woman he knew worked with regular unemployment stuff. I had recently lost my job of nearly ten years and needed work. When I asked her how to tell which online job offerings were legit, she looked frightened and consulted with my Dad about me needing a psychiatric exam fast. Next thing I knew she was offering to send me to the program that I originally thought was going to teach me graphic design and that got me my ASD and ADHD diagnostic impressions. The whole thing was really weird. I am glad to be out of both programs

 

[RemyZee]

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