Wow yer that was harsh, but I wanted all opinions and advice because it's then up to me to disseminate and concatenate. So now I must ask these few questions of you
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Can't believe people thought it was a tan, nice tagline and I'd say you wrote a fairly long profile thats actually worth reading and too long to quote every great bit to prove I actually read it. I'll challenge your adoration for dogs with the lovely squeeks and peeps of a rat any day though so ;-P
5 randomn facts...ummm; I love the smell of magazine print. I happen to think that Indian women have the world greatest smiles. I'm wearing 'wheres wally' socks right now.I love marmite. Oh god,,,a fifth one...umm....well if you're actually interested in me at all I'll get back to you on that.
GOT A RESPONSE
This was in relation to her skin colour initially in which her tagline was- "yes it's a tan, the permanant kind" in response to the ignorance she faced.
Sorry if I was harsh. Yeah, I don't think it would work out if you sent me that as a first message. It is better than the rest of them though, to be fair.
And how then or what then would you suggest I go down the lines of saying if (like 50% or more of the women on there) she has no written profile, only photos?
This may come from a lack of experience, but I'd like to think that online dating is a mutual effort. If some women don't write profiles, then it's not worth messaging them, IMO. I don't know how plentyoffish works, but there's also the possibility that some of those without profiles are spambots. Plus, if it's only a factor of two that don't have profile information, surely that isn't too bad?
Here's another way to look at it. Women who are at least midly attractive tend to get lots of messages from guys telling them that and making statements on their appearances. It's a very easy thing to say. If you want to date some woman, and you are sending her first messages that are really no different from lots of messages that she is getting, what makes you stand out from all of the other guys telling her the same thing? You could ask the same thing to any of those other guys.
And jokingly or seriously I might add- if you saw my pic for the first time then surely (handsome, alright, ugly or whatever) you still would hopefully conclude "ahhh but he's a friendly looking guy, so I'll let him off for telling me I'm beautiful in all those different ways"???
I'm not going to make any judgments on your appearances, FYI, but you look better as a guy than I do as a girl. I'm not sure if that's a good comparison though.
Here's the thing. I don't think your appearance would factor into my decision to not message you. For me, at least, even if the hottest guys on the planet sent me first messages that mainly talked about my looks and didn't have any substance to it, I wouldn't want to engage with that person. That isn't to say that appearances don't matter to me, but I'm really not that picky about it. When it comes to dating someone that I would consider being with on the long term, personality matches are going to end up outweighing appearances.
I know few guys who, despite not being attractive by most standards, I would happily go on a date with if they asked me (I'm sure they won't though). I find them fun to hang around and can have engaging conversations with them. I also know some hotties that can do that as well, and I would go on dates with them if they asked (again, they wouldn't ask me though). I've also known some fairly hot guys who I would be really bored with on a date. I'm currently single, but my ex-boyfriend was pretty good to go on dates with. My ex-girlfriend wasn't as much of a talker, but still really fun to hang around as well.
Just FYI, I'm not attractive at all, and there are some physical aspects about me that many men would refuse to date me because of, but whatevs.
And also (though I cannot dismiss the advice I'm getting on here) I wonder if in part being aspies just mean you see or feel differently in regards to expectations from a guy or online than most NT women??
I'm only speaking for myself here, but yeah, I would expect that there are going to be differences.