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Are a portion of people on the autism spectrum asexual? Asking due to my failed relationship

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Blue/Green
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Seems to me a guy might get bored with DIY and
want somebody else to get him off, even if he did
have to pay the other person.

There is an added advantage to paying for sex.
No need act like you care for the other person.

However, this is not the topic of the thread.
OP asked whether there is a portion of people on the autism spectrum
who are asexual.

Further replies to this thread should be directed toward the topic of
whether a portion of people on the spectrum are asexual.
 

Kayla55

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My theory is:
Despite ASD 1/2/3 diagnosis that hormones have large part to play. Hormones keep us young, hormones combine other hormones to create emotions and behaviour and of course reproduction.
But social requires different mindset, it's arts and dance or sports and theatre and emotions. Intellectual capacity is usually associated with geek, less physical in sports, less social distractions.
less social distractions
less social distractions
Less preoccupation with sex, dominance and all the behaviour and social distractions associated with sex hormones (testosterone)
So despite ASD 123 diagnosis and high functioning based on masking....those that are operating left brain won't click to social and well my theory is more a-sexual the higher the IQ (based reasonable doubt)
Repeat testosterone has little to do with intelligence, it has more to do with arrogant behaviour, dominance, insensitivity and uses more existing technology but doesn't create own ideas. So no testosterone doesn't do that!!!
Animals procreate based on heat factors, and female just bend over to winning male....human hormones are more complex in the courting ritual, but also affect overall concentration and behaviour and therefore display lack of intelligence found in human evolution, which differs from animals because whilst animals do evolve and have sex it's not the same humans, humans who behave less like animals and procreate in public or just obsessed with it tend have lesser IQ
Some humans have higher emotional IQ than other people and most people learn mimic their whole lives.
Sad part is you social reject and live different life
 

AO1501

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To address the original question, of course there are a proportion of people on the spectrum who are also asexual. We're human, not calculating machines or automatons, so we have the same human characteristics as everybody else, just sometimes and in some ways not framed or recognizable in the same way.

There isn't that I know of anything to show a connection between asexuality and intelligence or intellectual functioning, but there is abundant psychological and behavioral foundation to believe that the difficulty many autistic people face in forming relationships, socially engaging with others, and the high degree of rejection many face in forming or maintaining 'romantic' connection to others can lead to asexual self-diagnoses or behaviors.

Put simply, an autistic person who is unable to connect and engage romantically or sexually, or who faces a repeating cycle of being turned down or rejected (mostly because of a lack of social skills), is going to become deterred from trying. They will likely shy away from others who try with them too, due to poor comprehension of intention and for fear history is simply going to repeat itself, not least because there is something wrong with them, themselves.

There's also the problem that as time goes by and the person gets 'left behind' the expected trajectory of romantic and sexual engagement which others seem to be taking, that sense of 'something wrong with me', and 'this obviously isn't for me' would get more and more palpable.

Personally, I think the notion of asexuality in a partner is vastly overused, mostly as a get out for addressing our own mistakes or shortcomings. Also for something as simple as that we are not as sexually attractive to that particular person as we might think or believe ourselves as being.

Lastly, I don't think asexuality is as fixed as being a simple true or false. Asexual people can have very satisfying sex lives with the right person they feel safe with and attracted to, just as highly sexed people can have sex-free friendships and relationships. Like most things in human behavioral psychology, it's a spectrum.
 
Even if I do manage to meet someone new, and me and this person end up being sexually compatible with each other, I will forever be sad and depressed and bitter and resentful that I didn't meet her while I was still in my 20s.

I'll always be bitter and resentful and envy people who got today to have a normal healthy physically intimate relationship like 10 to 15 years before I did or just around the traditional normal timeline.

Reminds me of a powerful video on tiktok posted by a woman.
 
I was always repulsed at the idea of sex. I never sought it at all. I eventually met my future wife and we built our relationship on shared interests and spiritual leanings. When we considered marriage, I was anxious about "having" to do sex, but I figured I would try not to fret about it.
I was literally a 40 year old virgin when we married. She had 15 year old son, so clearly she was not.
It worked out fine, of course. 24 years later, she passed away. I am back to having no sexual interest in anyone.
Some people might call the foregoing asexual.
How do you feel about not having had sex for so many years?
 

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