Open and fully personal: I don't know if I have an issue that has or fits a label, honestly. I don't think that I lack the emotions that I should have, but I know that I don't "commit the act" with my pleasure in mind. It's always been about the woman and focused on her experience (and not to fail in any way). To reach that point, trust, comfort and a strong cerebral connection must be in place, and then the mindset kicks in that I am giving of myself without a mindset of personal gain...if that makes sense..? I don't know how to better describe it.