Anyone Else Have A Hard Time Staying Home Alone?

[The Penguin]

I have been living on my own alone since I was 17 and I'm 33 now. In between those years I did lived with my parents for a few years but as a whole, 13 of those years was alone.

It can be depressing especially I have no local friends and people rarely visit. I learn to accept is very hard for me to connect with society.

As plus side, I know I would have difficult living with most people. I love things very quite. So despite it can be lonely, I love having my own freedom and not having to have to answer to anyone.

 

[tyko berglund]

I just get so anxious and depressed staying home alone.

It would not be that I enjoy being "always alone", as Marilyn Monroe might have phrased it, but
it feels very much like being alone is part of my nature. I find I often go for weeks at a time with
no meaningful conversation with anyone at all.

 

[grommet]

I have been living on my own alone since I was 17 and I'm 33 now. In between those years I did lived with my parents for a few years but as a whole, 13 of those years was alone.

It can be depressing especially I have no local friends and people rarely visit. I learn to accept is very hard for me to connect with society.

As plus side, I know I would have difficult living with most people. I love things very quite. So despite it can be lonely, I love having my own freedom and not having to have to answer to anyone.

This is how I feel too. I like things quiet. Also, it seems I cannot connect with society. I go out and among people but it is like I am visiting where they live and it is not until I come home that I am where I live.

There is so much noise out there. Why don't those people also like quiet? Nt society is a mystery to me.

 

[wanderer03]

I've been on my own my entire life; no siblings and no pets growing up, nor did my mother allow friends over. Because of that, I've always been comfortable being home alone. In fact, on my days off I prefer to stay at home. My house is like a fortress, plus I have enough "protection" to take care of anything including a grizzly bear, though I wouldn't mind having one for a pet.

I think that's one of the reason why I didn't care for trucking, because I'm too much of a homebody.

I hear you on that one. I have a little bit of wanderlust in me and I love to drive. I just never slept well in the truck and hated tractor trailers in the city. I think I could really like hotshot because I'll sleep in a real bed in a motel. You're a genius Sportster for giving me that idea. I'm like a kid in a candy store.

 

[wanderer03]

Thanks for the compliment, but I'm no genius; I've just been around the block a few times. When I was running over-the-road, I had a Freightliner cab-over with a fairly small sleeper. I never really could sleep in that thing. A few times I drove a Ford 9000 cab-over that had a huge queen-sized sleeper. That wasn't too bad, but it's still hard to sleep in a truck that's idling all night. The best sleeper I ever experienced was in an Autocar conventional. That thing was plush and you didn't get the same sensation in the sleeper while it was idling as you did in a cab-over.

I have seen some hotshots with sleepers, but I imagine they're probably as comfortable as the ones on the big-rigs:

You're welcome! I am 6'4" so that hotshot sleeper would be misery. I'll just use the motel rooms for tax write-offs :-D Although I have to admit, that thing is pretty cool.

 

[umbrellabeach]

I'm the opposite; I love staying alone. I have complete freedom and and control; no one to make noise, get in my way, or otherwise bother me (except my clingy cat).

 

[wanderer03]

I'm the opposite; I love staying alone. I have complete freedom and and control; no one to make noise, get in my way, or otherwise bother me (except my clingy cat).

Clingy cats are cool! Meow!

 

[Rayner]

Thanks for the compliment, but I'm no genius; I've just been around the block a few times. When I was running over-the-road, I had a Freightliner cab-over with a fairly small sleeper. I never really could sleep in that thing. A few times I drove a Ford 9000 cab-over that had a huge queen-sized sleeper. That wasn't too bad, but it's still hard to sleep in a truck that's idling all night. The best sleeper I ever experienced was in an Autocar conventional. That thing was plush and you didn't get the same sensation in the sleeper while it was idling as you did in a cab-over.

I have seen some hotshots with sleepers, but I imagine they're probably as comfortable as the ones on the big-rigs:

Queen size mattress, my bed in my house (my trailer) isn't even that large. It's only a twin.

 

[Rayner]

When you spend that many hours in a vehicle, you welcome all the possible comfort you can get.

I bet, I never thought a a tractor trailer sleeper would have a larger mattress than the one in my house.

 

[wanderer03]

Yeah, you would be uncomfortable. However, I thought you'd find it pretty cool. The neatest rig I ever drove was a KW K100 cab-over Aerodyne. It was roomy and had upper and lower racks. This is similar to the one I drove:

I had a KW T680. It was like a Cadillac. It even had a fully automatic transmission with manual mode.

 

[Astroganga]

I like to be alone, but not at home. When I was younger I used to go walking by myself every evening, and I would just keep going. On one occasion I walked nearly ten miles. I would still do this but it is harder with kids and various responsibilities, the most I walk these days is 4-5 miles.

 

[paloftoon]

Try meetup.com. If you live near a big city, even better.

 

[Rayner]

Oh yeah, I saw a sleeper that had two rooms. Check this out for nice:

See above. Yeah, the industry sure has come a long way over the years. The guy that trained me started out in a twin-stick Mack without a sleeper. They'd climb into the trailer and pull a cargo pad over themselves and go to sleep. That part I'm not sure about, but I do believe it about the twin-stick.

Wow Two rooms, my trailer is a 1979 Avon its 36 feet long from the hitch to the bumper, it doesn't have any separate rooms. It has two twin mattress. I sleep on one I use the other as a guest bed if/when I get company.

 

[tree]

..."always alone", as Marilyn Monroe might have phrased it...

I didn't realize she was known for saying anything
like that. "Alone" made me think of Greta Garbo.
But I looked and found this.

I am alone;
I am always alone no matter what.

Marilyn Monroe

http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/m/marilynmon498595.html

 

[pineman93]

I do feel a bit lonely staying at home sometimes,it is also nice to enjoy the peace and quiet as well,
I dont think it would be as bad if had a better social life and went to more events and social gathers

 

[AspieOtaku]

Not really when I have video games and anime, but i do get lonely though.

 

[Dreadful Dante]

I LOVE to stay home alone, it feels incredible to have no social responsibility do return stimuli. There was a time (all my adolescence) I'd feel I was missing out on something, but I realised it was social pressure to be socially successful. I internalized that concept and now I enjoy being alone to a degree that I don't think anyone else around me would ever understand (They dread the idea of being in a place by themselves for even minutes).

I'm just telling you my case so it might clarify something for you. Hope you find out what's causing your anxiety.

 

[WereBear]

I LOVE to stay home alone, it feels incredible to have no social responsibility do return stimuli.

I LOVE being home alone -- no one, even someone I love, to pop up NEEDING something. However, it can be too much of a good thing. We need balance, and if you have too much alone time, it is going to feel lonely.

 

[Dreadful Dante]

I have already gone through 4 months with minimum socialising without feeling lonely. But I actually cannot intuitively tell when I feel loneliness, I have to analyse my behaviour for symptoms to come to that conclusion. If I don't do it, a year can pass by without me realising I haven't really talked to anyone.

But I do need socialising and enjoy it to a certain degree. Just don't feel the innate drive to socialise.

 

[Hopeless_Aspie_Guy]

I just get so anxious and depressed staying home alone.

If I've been home alone too long these days then I too feel this. It's not a fear of burglars though, just a fear of being non-existent and not cared for or about. I liked to be alone with my own thoughts, but too much of a good thing can literally drive you to insanity.

I've been on my own my entire life; no siblings and no pets growing up, nor did my mother allow friends over. Because of that, I've always been comfortable being home alone. In fact, on my days off I prefer to stay at home. My house is like a fortress, plus I have enough "protection" to take care of anything including a grizzly bear, though I wouldn't mind having one for a pet.

That's both advantageous and very saddening to hear at the same time.

Try meetup.com. If you live near a big city, even better.

We're aspies, we don't have the social skills for that kinda stuff and many of us are probably too nervous about doing that. Oh god, what if you run out of things to say

I do feel a bit lonely staying at home sometimes,it is also nice to enjoy the peace and quiet as well,
I dont think it would be as bad if had a better social life and went to more events and social gathers

I LOVE being home alone -- no one, even someone I love, to pop up NEEDING something. However, it can be too much of a good thing. We need balance, and if you have too much alone time, it is going to feel lonely.

That last part of both quotes is the key for any of us loners, I agree with everything you both just said.

In general I like having time to myself and home alone (I live with my parents and one of my two sisters) and I could never imagine living alone as I'm too depressed and anxious nowadays (unlike years ago) to endure on my own. It's always nice to have the release from your fears and depression amongst people who entertain you and care for you. I always pity the person who falls away from their family.