His pain has manifested as hatred toward gay men.
your attitudes toward races and homosexuality, and blaming everyone except yourself for your problems.
I’m not trying to give you guys a hard time and I appreciate other input, but the fact that you guys mentioned these things and others agreed is sort of what drives this
Like the assumption that there is some problem with hatred or problems with me or things terrible about me or I might at fault it actually offensive to me and it makes me scared to trust society when people agree with such things. And this site is nothing like wrong planet and other places or even with some psychs and so on where I would just be immediately punished for saying anything
Like the issue is caused by acceptance and tolerance and I don’t hate gay men, I am frustrated that very simple things become immensely political complicated things where people seem to search for what I have done wrong or what is wrong with me or my evilness for very obvious things. What it feels like is a woman being accused of dressing sexy or leading men on or whatever else as the actual reason behind sexual assaults and what she might be up to her hatred of men for accusing oppressed men or whatever nonsense, or if she gets outraged about this resulting in potentially getting accused of even more things, like women’s rights activists have penis envy or whatever. I am just saying that’s what things feel like. Like people searching for fault with me or actually punishing me drives more and more outrage and makes me more embattled and want to talk about it moreand results in me never feeling safe and secure in any community and that no one will be upset for me, everyone will be upset against me and I must stay in battle mode against others who will turn against me and might gang up on me at any moment.
Like minor sexual assault issues are literally just worse in certain gay communities such as gay bars, than they are in straight communities, and actually a lot worse. This is just a fact, it’s not political or hatred is at play or anything else. Like you take women out of the equation and guys who are just more sexually straightforward and grabby just engage in more straightforward things.
How Gay Men Normalize Sexual Assault
Like, my head is not confused on it’s own. Like I started getting bullied in junior high and then through high th school, so somehow I assumed issue was stupid rednecks, so I become very liberal. But then gay couple sexually assault me after I had been drinking. And it was especially frustrating because I had repeatedly been telling one gay guy, who happened to be black, that I did not want him sitting on my lap, and so. It felt like since he couldn’t pressure me into sex, he just waited until I was in a compromised position and then bring his boyfriend to sexually assault me
Like things were not actually confusing, thing happened, there were lots of indirect witnesses, gay couple even admitted that it happened, though I suspect with explanations about drugs being involved. It was just not complicated
What I feel like is like since everything was so straightforward and obvious, if I was a woman, there would have been outrage and social support and help with pressing charges and understanding and the very obvious problem could be closed and done with. Then I could have moved on to real problems I was having like adhd and asd
But what actually happened was threats of violence for being upset from my social group, absolute disinterest from gay, gay advocate counselor I was assigned at university counseling. Then heterosexual roommates making fun of me for partying with gays, then psychs trying to figure out if real issue was repressed homosexuality or whether my anger made me a danger, eventually culminating in hospitalization where there was still no sympathy or support, and then being told my brain had severe chemical imbalances. Absolutely zero sympathy or support, just searching for what the real issue was
And so on
Then this took away any chance of getting help for real issues like adhd and ASD, continually. I had to fight forever to just receive adhd medication due to assumptions real issues were what psychs initially diagnosed me with
Then all the non support after all the previous bullying as well as all the assumptions against me resulted in me feeling I had no rights as a human being, like people could do whatever they wanted and no one would care. Then also so many proclamations of things wrong with me that I gave up hope that I could ever have a normal life and I should never have children because I was too mentally disturbed to breed
Then this also resulted in me looking for support from guy who was raped as a child because maybe he might actually understand, but then he decided that this has “made him gay” and he was in love with me and he banned women I liked from apartment and I had to physically fight him off, and on and on. And there was grooming and other issues, but all this really just resulted from me being so beat down from initial sexual assault somehow being found to prove things about me
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Like things don’t actually have to become complicated. Like if a woman is sexually assaulted, the real issue not that she was dressing sexy or was leading the guy on or hates men or has repressed penis envy and has things wrong with a brain and so on. If the issue is just addressed without adding in nonsense about the victim it might not actually be a very big deal