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Afraid of lying

Keith

Keith

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I never lie because I'm afraid of the consequences. I also try to sound as legitimate as possible if there's something wrong. For example, if I have a sore muscle, I try to sound as honest as possible for fear I might seem like I'm exaggerating.
 
I always tell the truth or say nothing. (My face can't lie either - I guess that means no playing poker for me.)
 
Ste11aeres said:
I try to always tell the truth, but I have no idea how to sound honest.
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I was thinking the same thing....like there isn't an audio equivalent of the visual aspect of lying. The sole reason why I worked so hard to learn to look people in the eye. To establish credibility. But the sound of my voice? Hmmmm....I'd have to think about that some more.
 
Judge said:
I was thinking the same thing....like there isn't an audio equivalent of the visual aspect of lying. The sole reason why I worked so hard to learn to look people in the eye. To establish credibility. But the sound of my voice? Hmmmm....I'd have to think about that some more.
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The thing that annoys me about the social meaning of body language is that the meaning people attach to it is not always the emotion such body language actually accompanies. For instance, people think smiling means happiness. But I read about a study that found that frustrated people smile.
People watching videos couldn't tell the difference between people who were genuinely happy, and people who were genuinely frustrated.
But when they watched videos of people who were (as actors) pretending to be happy and people who were pretending to be frustrated, they could distinguish the "happy" ones from the "frustrated" ones, because the people pretending be frustrated didn't smile.
 
Ste11aeres said:
The thing that annoys me about the social meaning of body language is that the meaning people attach to it is not always the emotion such body language actually accompanies.
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Couldn't agree more. We exist in a society that relies on such conventions, even though they can be incredibly flawed. Of course the notion that "perception is reality" doesn't help either.

Former CIA analyst Aldrich Ames would probably agree as well. He passed polygraph examinations in 1986 and 1991 even though he had been passing secrets to the Russians for some time.
 
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I don't like to lie simply because I don't like to be less than a good person. I try to do social lies when the truth isn't what the person wants because that is what is considered "being nice." I especially won't lie and put the blame on someone else.
 
Another thing is laughing when something's not funny. I've heard people have a nervous laugh. I've laughed at a situation rather than what happened and I've been addressed "How is that funny?" in a very serious manner.
 
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