What are some effective ways of setting boundaries with religious relatives who believe boundaries should not apply and can be completely ignored because they believe the following and their beliefs are "correct":
> A person's salvation is the most treasured thing they could ever have...even if the person doesn't believe that themselves.
> It's a Christian's obligation and duty to do whatever they can to help another person "stay on the narrow path" and honoring someone's clear boundary of saying that their own spirituality is not a topic they want to discuss isn't fulfilling that obligation or duty in God's eyes (as far as they presume). Note the motivation here is potentially more so to protect and preserve the religious person's own salvation than it is selflessly caring for another's salvation...
> Spiritual health of individuals within a family, extended familiy, etc is everyone's business (because of its believed importance) and should be regarded as such and freely discussed at whim.
> It's also a Christian's duty and obligation to include admonishing those they feel have "fallen away" or have "strayed".
> They are soldiers for Christ, fighting for your salvation on your behalf even after you've asked them not to.
^ Those are the main beliefs that come to mind. I'm asking for advice on how to set boundaries that are actually effective with such people short of going NC (No Contact) with them. To be clear, I'm not and have not asked that any of these relatives refrain from mentioning God in conversation and how God pertains to their own lives when they talk to me. What I mean is, if in conversation the person/people say something like: "Today was such a beautiful day that I thanked God for every moment of my hike." I have not/won't take umbrage with their comment because that's what they believe. In my opinion it would be wrong for me to say: "Don't say anything about God when you talk to me." I've however made it clear and have been direct in saying that my spirituality isn't a topic that I will discuss.
> A person's salvation is the most treasured thing they could ever have...even if the person doesn't believe that themselves.
> It's a Christian's obligation and duty to do whatever they can to help another person "stay on the narrow path" and honoring someone's clear boundary of saying that their own spirituality is not a topic they want to discuss isn't fulfilling that obligation or duty in God's eyes (as far as they presume). Note the motivation here is potentially more so to protect and preserve the religious person's own salvation than it is selflessly caring for another's salvation...
> Spiritual health of individuals within a family, extended familiy, etc is everyone's business (because of its believed importance) and should be regarded as such and freely discussed at whim.
> It's also a Christian's duty and obligation to include admonishing those they feel have "fallen away" or have "strayed".
> They are soldiers for Christ, fighting for your salvation on your behalf even after you've asked them not to.
^ Those are the main beliefs that come to mind. I'm asking for advice on how to set boundaries that are actually effective with such people short of going NC (No Contact) with them. To be clear, I'm not and have not asked that any of these relatives refrain from mentioning God in conversation and how God pertains to their own lives when they talk to me. What I mean is, if in conversation the person/people say something like: "Today was such a beautiful day that I thanked God for every moment of my hike." I have not/won't take umbrage with their comment because that's what they believe. In my opinion it would be wrong for me to say: "Don't say anything about God when you talk to me." I've however made it clear and have been direct in saying that my spirituality isn't a topic that I will discuss.
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