bajariitz37
Active Member
Hey!
I am asking for advice on a dating situation because I don't know what to do. I am a 25 year old male and I have been talking to this girl for a few months now and I have seen her once (she lives in a different city than me so that is why), we are not yet in a relationship but still in the dating/talking stage. I have had a rough couple of weeks with my mental health and I had trouble with a few of my old vices that I struggle with still sometimes (porn and abusing alcohol).
I went to a night club with a few friends of mine and got too drunk (blacked out ) and I danced with another girl, we did not kiss or anything but I had my hands on her waist for like maybe a minute. Now I feel guilt about this even though my friends tell me that I did not dance in a sexual manner with the girl and she left almost as fast as she had come to dance with me, the whole thing lasted for maybe about a minute. I don't know what should I do, should I tell her about it or should I just "tough it up" and move forward in a way that I treat her better in the future. I even just considered breaking it up at this point because this whole thing took me deep in to self-hate spiral and I feel like I only do damage to other people in relationships...
Do any of you have any similar incidents, and how would you act in this situation, which is better towards her, not saying anything about this screw-up and dealing with it internally and being better towards her in the future or telling her about it at some point? I don't know if telling her is kind of a selfish thing to just to "get it off my chest", because after this night I kind of hit rock bottom mentally and became to a turning point for the better. My friends said that "nothing really happened and you are overreacting", but I don't know.
Sorry for the language, I am not a native English speaker.
I am asking for advice on a dating situation because I don't know what to do. I am a 25 year old male and I have been talking to this girl for a few months now and I have seen her once (she lives in a different city than me so that is why), we are not yet in a relationship but still in the dating/talking stage. I have had a rough couple of weeks with my mental health and I had trouble with a few of my old vices that I struggle with still sometimes (porn and abusing alcohol).
I went to a night club with a few friends of mine and got too drunk (blacked out ) and I danced with another girl, we did not kiss or anything but I had my hands on her waist for like maybe a minute. Now I feel guilt about this even though my friends tell me that I did not dance in a sexual manner with the girl and she left almost as fast as she had come to dance with me, the whole thing lasted for maybe about a minute. I don't know what should I do, should I tell her about it or should I just "tough it up" and move forward in a way that I treat her better in the future. I even just considered breaking it up at this point because this whole thing took me deep in to self-hate spiral and I feel like I only do damage to other people in relationships...
Do any of you have any similar incidents, and how would you act in this situation, which is better towards her, not saying anything about this screw-up and dealing with it internally and being better towards her in the future or telling her about it at some point? I don't know if telling her is kind of a selfish thing to just to "get it off my chest", because after this night I kind of hit rock bottom mentally and became to a turning point for the better. My friends said that "nothing really happened and you are overreacting", but I don't know.
Sorry for the language, I am not a native English speaker.