Hi,
I am hoping people can help, apologies in advance for the very long post!
I work with a guy who comes in to work a couple of times per month, a few months ago he told me he has autism, which makes no difference to me what so ever everybody is individual and the world would be boring if we were all the same!
We have been friends for about 9 months and I do really like him and would like to spend time out of work together. Lots of people at work keep saying we have a connection, we have the same sense of humour and even when he isn’t at work we message at night maybe 4 times a week mostly at night (50/50 of who starts messages off) which can last for several hours sometimes the messages end as one of us doesn’t message back and other times they end as one of us goes to bed. People say he acts differently around me and we do act the fool at work and we have nicknames for each other, have private jokes, he always shows me videos and pictures of his family which is great, if he is out and sees something funny he will take a picture and send it to me and he always teases me. He told me he only speaks to a handful of people in total and I’m the only one from work.
I asked him once if he wanted to grab some food one evening and catch up but he said he was working and my heart sank but nothing changed between us and it wasn’t weird. I want to ask him again if he wants to hang out but I don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable or change us. People both at work and outside have said for me to just ask him.
He honestly is really funny, kind, really good looking (out of my league), I do have confidence issues of my own (I’m overweight and not confident at all). Either way if there is nothing romantic I have a friend!
Has anybody got advice as I don’t know if he likes me and I don’t want to make him uncomfortable?
I am hoping people can help, apologies in advance for the very long post!
I work with a guy who comes in to work a couple of times per month, a few months ago he told me he has autism, which makes no difference to me what so ever everybody is individual and the world would be boring if we were all the same!
We have been friends for about 9 months and I do really like him and would like to spend time out of work together. Lots of people at work keep saying we have a connection, we have the same sense of humour and even when he isn’t at work we message at night maybe 4 times a week mostly at night (50/50 of who starts messages off) which can last for several hours sometimes the messages end as one of us doesn’t message back and other times they end as one of us goes to bed. People say he acts differently around me and we do act the fool at work and we have nicknames for each other, have private jokes, he always shows me videos and pictures of his family which is great, if he is out and sees something funny he will take a picture and send it to me and he always teases me. He told me he only speaks to a handful of people in total and I’m the only one from work.
I asked him once if he wanted to grab some food one evening and catch up but he said he was working and my heart sank but nothing changed between us and it wasn’t weird. I want to ask him again if he wants to hang out but I don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable or change us. People both at work and outside have said for me to just ask him.
He honestly is really funny, kind, really good looking (out of my league), I do have confidence issues of my own (I’m overweight and not confident at all). Either way if there is nothing romantic I have a friend!
Has anybody got advice as I don’t know if he likes me and I don’t want to make him uncomfortable?