@doragirl, look into therapy that is recommended by autism-competent resources. Some of them might still use ABA to deal with specific skills that are lacking, but they will still embrace his underlying autism as a valid type of neurology. And help him to navigate it.
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Many of us on the spectrum have poor work histories and lack the funds needed to pursue a diagnosis and pay for recurring services. If your...
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