AA sucks.

[Yeshuasdaughter]

I can't do twelve step groups or any group therapies anyway. I black out in groups of strangers. And like I don't even hear what they're saying.

 

[Aspychata]

This group isn't working. It's just time to move on. You have an understanding of what you went thru. You aren't delusional. You do accept that your family is very dysfunctional. Like many other families. So going thru a dysfunctional group that guilt shames you to control you (AA), it's not working.

 

[Yeshuasdaughter]

If someone tells you to apologize to someone who molested you as a child, they can just f right off. No offense.

I'm really into making amends, but not with those people.

God bless you.

 

[ra49]

I don't know if this will help, but in every region there is a central AA administrative office. Without outing anyone in the group that you already attended, you could approach the central office to ask if there is a local group that specifically helps people with your history

Having been where you are in many respects, I wish you good results

 

[Poppy98]

Try telling that to my last sponsor. I am the asshole because I am angry I was sexually abused as a child? I should forgive and let it go because I am the asshole? Seriously, NO to that.

he sounds like an idiot. Anger is there to keep you safe when a boundary is being demolished. I think he's projecting something onto you that has nothing to do with your life.

I've heard about the way people minimize abuse from mothers and it's truly revolting. When does any person have more power to abuse without consequences than a parent, especially a mother.


It's clearly not logical.

 

[Judge]

Here is an update. I had a two hour talk with one of my closest friends, who is not a 12 stepper. I should focus on the progress I have made and the progress I continue to make. I also have a room for rent available on the other side of the country if I want it.

Distancing yourself from family and bad memories might be a great option.