It doesn’t help me feel better at all.
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36 and still feeling like I did when I was 17.
- Thread starter Markness
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Many men have a hard time finding Ms Right. Because we don't really know what Ms Right will turn out to be. So l feel your mother is very harsh. She could be more compassionate in your search for a partner. Does your mother not want you to find anyone because she dosen't want you to leave her? Yup, this is a possibility l am afraid. She is afraid of losing you perhaps.
She’s a control freak so she is afraid of losing me. She even told me I might have to take care of her like she does with my grandmother. I honestly dread that thought because it would guarantee that I will never have a girlfriend. I even told her that.
She is abusive because she needs you has her personal caretake? There are some other options, like having a caregiver come in and take care of hygiene needs. But being disrespectful and abusive to you isn't love and compassion. Sorry Markness. My mom is abusive and sshe dosen't need me as a caretaker either.
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She’s also abusive because she’s unhappy and feels that no one else can if she can’t be.
Considering how much money she makes as a doctor and even hires people regularly to do services for her, she could easily hire a caregiver for herself. She’s actually hired someone to style her eyelashes. She doesn’t need me to look after her.
She may expect you to handle her business affairs if she develops dementia perhaps. You are learning to stand up for yourself, and l see you letting her know your choices. My mother is extremely controlling. l just told my partner, my mother is the only person that completely drives me bonkers. It's not an easy ride with a controlling mother, and my step-dad was identical. 
My mom has gaslighted me. but l don't know if it's intentional or not, but it has completely ruined our relationship.
My mom has gaslighted me. but l don't know if it's intentional or not, but it has completely ruined our relationship.
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I decided to look into returning to college but realistically I can only take one course due to my finances and work schedule. I inquired about British Literature II since I took I before. I was given a form for the course payment but I haven’t paid yet.
I keep hoping maybe things will be different for me socially if I go back to college but my hopes tend to get dashed.
I keep hoping maybe things will be different for me socially if I go back to college but my hopes tend to get dashed.
I am not surprised Texas is listed among those links.
That's a "tricky" social dynamic. To assume that you can enhance yourself with something superficial that will "do all the talking" for you as some kind of gimmick. When IMO if you focus on such a thing, it's more likely to attract a superficial person. Which probably isn't in your best interest.
Concerns like various "styles" may appeal to some, but not necessarily to others.
But as to what @Rodafina mentioned above, there's nothing superficial about attraction when it comes to being able to project confidence.
Concerns like various "styles" may appeal to some, but not necessarily to others.
But as to what @Rodafina mentioned above, there's nothing superficial about attraction when it comes to being able to project confidence.
I think it would be useful for you to consider *overcoming your struggles*
as an incremental thing, not a "whoopee I win, I know it all now" kind of thing.
Imagining a future when there are no situations that are new to you or require effort isn't realistic.
That doesn't mean gradual improvement isn't possible.
as an incremental thing, not a "whoopee I win, I know it all now" kind of thing.
Imagining a future when there are no situations that are new to you or require effort isn't realistic.
That doesn't mean gradual improvement isn't possible.
Incremental means one thing at a time, correct?
Incremental - Definition, Meaning & Synonyms
Incremental refers to size, not number.
It would be possible to make a variety of incremental changes.
For example: wearing cotton socks rather than nylon while also having
a measured amount of almonds for a snack rather than a bag of pork rinds.
Incremental refers to size, not number.
It would be possible to make a variety of incremental changes.
For example: wearing cotton socks rather than nylon while also having
a measured amount of almonds for a snack rather than a bag of pork rinds.
What my automatic thoughts tend to be:
“It still hasn’t happened. Will it ever happen?”
“Another year has passed and it still hasn’t happened. Will it always be this way?”
“Does my past equal my future?”
“Did I have a chance and blew it? Are there no more chances?”
What I suppose I could try thinking instead:
“The year is new and there could be new opportunities.”
“I have to try harder in the coming year.”
“Can I get second chances?”
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