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Zain

Zain

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  • Zain
    Mutual respect is essential to a healthy, strong and good relationship. A lot of us here are friendless and alone. Would you say a lack of respect for others often on your side is one reason for this?
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    Zain
    Zain
    @thejuice That's exactly what I'm talking about. You are meant to feel tired after eating garbage because of how bad junk food is for you. It takes longer to digest. It negatively affects the body's chemistry. Now, imagine someone has been eating such trash for long periods.. their entire life? How can that person be healthy? They will be awful mentally as the body affects the mind, etc.
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    thejuice
    I don't know how they can do it, maybe you get used to it?
    Zain
    Zain
    @thejuice There is no getting used to it. A lion won't be happy being fed anything but meat, nor will he be happy when is not out in the wild fulfilling his natural desires in a natural environment. Humans are just animals.
    Zain
    I may be coming across as 'cold' to people unintentionally. I feel it is kind of inefficient to use energy on others when I could be thinking of something else or relaxing my mind. Does anyone have any thoughts or tips to share here? If I was talking to a beautiful person, I'd be very energetic around them. I feel as though this is natural behaviour.
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    TBRS1
    TBRS1
    Example: A person showing you family photos is expressing joy/pride. They are doing this because they are extending a social invitation to you share in their joy.

    This is very kind of them.
    Zain
    Zain
    @TBRS1 I see.
    What about formal conversations? Is it worth it to take emotion into account over reason? Like trying to inject humour into a response even if you don't detect joy in their speech? Like when speaking to a manager, it can be hard/impossible to detect a feeling when things don't feel personal.
    Hopefully you know what I mean.
    TBRS1
    TBRS1
    Talking to a manager is about conveying information.

    Emotional content is pleasant/polite, with an undercurrent of subservience.

    Listen, respond politely. Inserting humor (as opposed to polite responses) is going off topic and likely to be viewed as "silly" or "distracting" by somebody expecting to convey clear data.
    Zain
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    The power of strong, healthy genetics on full display. Scary. Which do you want your kids looking like? Eat healthily, guys. Nourish yourselves. Don't degenerate.
    Zain
    It's weird how you cannot not like beautiful people. They really are God/nature's gift to us average people. I feel so much gratitude towards them, even towards the whole world/universe as circumstances led to the moment of me seeing them and feeling such an emotion.
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    Zain
    Zain
    @thejuice Believe it or not, we are all meant to look like this. We are meant to be in harmony with nature. But even looking at the average person doesn't create natural, immediate and effortless joy unlike when you look at one of these models. It is pathetic what we have become. I think in the future we'd all be able to look that beautiful via genetic reconfiguration, or something like that.
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    thejuice
    As society advances, the people get weaker. Perhaps applies to genes. "Hard times create strong men. Strong men create strong societies, strong societies create weak men, weak men create hard times" Thus every great civilisation eventually rots out from the inside and collapses, to be overthrown by the hungry, ambitious, up and comers. The east sees us as decadent and complacent.
    Zain
    Zain
    @thejuice An individual in our modern day has the power to eat healthily for themselves and their future generations. I spend so much more less money on the raw meat I buy and eat simply because it is more satiating so I don't feel I have to eat too much. There's evidence that anything else gives less nutrients. I believe there's a nefarious power at work with all the propaganda about food.
    Zain
    I had my first clash with a co-worker today. I thought about it for a while and realised it is beneath me and a waste of my time caring for the opinion of an undisciplined, late 40s, minimum wage worker. Who even has the energy to get frustrated during some minimum wage random job?
    Zain
    Zain
    I'm not pretentious. By beneath me, I just mean someone who I don't and can't respect. If you get frustrated over terribly minor things and then can't control how you are around others, you are lost and insecure. Healthy people do not act this way.
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    thejuice
    I had the same thing
    Zain
    Christmas feels odd this year. Everyone seems miserable on Christmas eve. Must be because I've transitioned more deeply into the adult world?
    Zain
    I've been doing new things, so meeting new people as well. I realised that my social life and social skills haven't changed much at all. I had expectations that I don't think were extreme, yet I've not met them. I think I can conclude that the problem is with me fully. Perhaps I'm not open enough, giving others enough of an opportunity to connect, or not reciprocating enough or clearly.
    Zain
    Zain
    It's pretty jarring once I realised that the problem is truly fully with me. At the same time, it's powerful. I always thought it was my social status and looks that held me back, but I'm not able to solidly connect with people in the same group as me, yet others are.
    Tony Ramirez
    Tony Ramirez
    Same here. I keep trying but I am spoken over. Don't even mention the disaster it is whenever I try to talk solo with a female that's not a boomer that's single. A trainwreck at best. Talk about 2 word convert and lots of dead silence disputes my best efforts to ask relevant questions.
    Zain
    The puritan movement sounds very appealing to me. And those hour-long sermons.. exactly what I was looking for. Why would someone choose to sing awkwardly with strangers rather than learn is beyond me.
    Zain
    Me wondering if I should spend 400 pounds to use the internet 10% faster. I hate FOMO.
    Hazel_1914
    Hazel_1914
    Nope! It'll be the same content anyway...save your £400 and that'll work out better for your savings account.
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    FilterFreq
    I'd rather be a little more patient and save :D
    Zain
    Mass was kind of underwhelming. I was expecting harsh lessons, deep theology and pondering, but I felt it was too ritualistic and drone-like in our behaviour. I honestly feel a back and forth conversation/dialogue would be a better format. It suits newcomers and experienced people more. How is a newcomer meant to understand what to do without guidance when it comes to rituals?
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    Zain
    Zain
    @Judge I understand it's outdated. What should be done about it?
    Judge
    Judge
    Ask the Vatican. With the understanding that it's not a democracy.

    If you look it up, you'll see it's been a point of contention for many years.

    Why the Latin Mass?
    Raggamuffin
    Raggamuffin
    You could trace it back centuries to Martin Luther, and look how much chaos, war and death that caused.

    "In these matters of faith, to be sure, each Christian is for himself pope and church."

    Realistically you don't need a church to pray or be religious. In this day and age with the Internet I'm sure you can find forums and social groups.
    Zain
    I'm going to walk into a new Catholic Church tomorrow. Hopefully, it goes well. Don't know any customs or anything, so I'll be winging it...
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    Yeshuasdaughter
    Yeshuasdaughter
    Nipple is weird to say regarding church. A more appropriate word would have been "collarbone".

    You don't have to do any of the crossing yourself or any of the unfamiliar things. I am not a catholic, but I have been to many churches as a visitor.
    Yeshuasdaughter
    Yeshuasdaughter
    The people of that denomination went to a special class called RCIA either as children or adult Catholic converts to learn all those things. Each movement has a meaning to them, like sign language worship. And so if if you are a visitor and you don't know, it's okay to just walk in, look around a bit (Catholic churches are really pretty), and then sit down.
    Yeshuasdaughter
    Yeshuasdaughter
    It is normal, especially around Christmas for visitors to attend new churches. No one will look at you weird if you don't join in with the crossing or the kneeling, or communion.
    Zain
    Physically beautiful people are so inspiring.
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    thejuice
    Top atheletes compete into 40s now, it's not so bad..
    Zain
    Zain
    Those are the upper class and elites. I'll look like a goblin from the stresses of a lower-class life :(.
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    thejuice
    Yeah those stresses will age you, you might not get the diseases of over indulgence though!
    Zain
    I guess my routine for the next 6 months (possibly 2 years) is going to be work, coding, sleep, repeat. I don't mind warehouse work, but it isn't something I want to be doing for the rest of my life.. It is quite motivating.
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    Zain
    Zain
    @Outdated I was surprised at how many older people were there. Definitely agree with you, not worth breaking myself physically for a job. To be fair, a lot of them looked sort of healthy on the outside, but I bet many were dealing with pains in joints and their backs.
    Zain
    Zain
    @Outdated Like my trainer, he dislocated his knee by simply kneeling and rising whilst turning. Poor guy. He's in his 60s and called himself healthy...
    Outdated
    Outdated
    I was very active when I was your age and ended up with a lot of spots injuries, they come back to haunt you when you get older. I have no regrets though, you can't live your life like the boy in the bubble.
    Zain
    No thoughts on my new job. People are there to clock in then clock out. Good for me I suppose. :D
    Zain
    I think I just got my first job. I start Wednesday after Tuesday training. How contrary.
    Zain
    I've started changing my behaviours so that they can be deemed as me investing into my future.
    Zain
    How do you figure out what the source of your problems are? Intellect, self-esteem, good judgement, etc.. how'd do you know what you're missing? Obviously they all overlap, but how do you accurately judge what your weaknesses are?
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    thejuice
    I would also add thinking about solutions and following through rather than ruminating on problems will achieve quick improvements. Men thrive through action and problem solving.
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    FilterFreq
    A lot of that stuff comes with age. If you want more wisdom, just live longer :D
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    FilterFreq
    Also, sometimes you've got to make some mistakes in order to figure out what your weaknesses are. They don't call it 'growing pains' for nothing!
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