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    Love, depression, suicide worry with Aspie ex

    That's the irony of this situation! Last time I saw him he complained about his lack of friends, how people always let him down, and how he feels taken advantage of. I know he's still sad about his ex who moved away - I think she was holding their social life together. But we started dating in...
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    Love, depression, suicide worry with Aspie ex

    I certainly have a lot of things to do and enjoy in my life without him. You are right, I should ask him if he wants a relationship with me or not. I deserve more than he is giving me, for sure. Are you saying he's expressing his depressive thoughts to get my attention? Well. it sure works. I...
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    Love, depression, suicide worry with Aspie ex

    Hi all, I posted here some months ago when my Aspie ex, who I loved, broke up with me suddenly and then vanished for two months with zero, and I mean zero, communication. He has now appeared again. He texted me and we met up a few days later, he happened to be in my part of the state. It was...
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    Sex for an aspie?

    I think everyone's experience of sex is different, but here's my NT perspective: it can be many different things for me. I can have great sex with someone I find attractive - and why I find them attractive is sometimes really mysterious - even though we may not have much to talk about or feel...
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    Sex for an aspie?

    I am an NT woman with a high sex drive. I've had a one-night stand with a guy who told me he was Aspie and it was great. (Hoped to see him again, but he got scared). Then, my ex who I dated for 7 months...Aspie and somehow the sexiest man I've ever known. He is super sensitive but uses his...
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    Trying to understand role of identity for an Aspie

    I just re-read this and realized I never responded to your wise words. I have tried to contact him again, after giving him time and space. I never brought up the AS again though, so maybe I should. He doesn't respond to phone messages or texts, but he hasn't blocked me. I sent him something for...
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    Is "Ghosting" common with someone with Aspergers?

    That sounds wise and the only way to find out if he is capable at this point in time to meet you face to face or not. Like someone else suggested, be gentle. And literal. :) If he cannot respond or go through with your plans, don't blame yourself. Take care of yourself and turn the compassion...
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    Is "Ghosting" common with someone with Aspergers?

    PS. I'm now wondering if you only communicate via email - sometimes things get buried other other messages or end up in spam! I would suggest calling him to make sure your emails went through? :)
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    Is "Ghosting" common with someone with Aspergers?

    Hi, I'm not sure if I missed some text somewhere, but it's hard to respond to your question without knowing how long you've known him and what kind of communication you've had so far. Do you see each other regularly? Do you live in the same city? It seems you had a trip planned somewhere and now...
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    Trying to understand and heal relationship

    Yes, all you're saying sounds absolutely right. Very wise and insightful. So helpful, thank you.
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    Trying to understand and heal relationship

    Well, I'm not part of the rulers. I am kind, patient, understanding, and I try my utmost to be compassionate in all sorts of situations and relationships. I lost a very close family member with undiagnosed AS to suicide. I always sensed his suffering but no one listened to me when I was...
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    Trying to understand and heal relationship

    I'm so moved that you remembered and followed up on this. Thank you. We communicated about the money via texts and he sent me a check for the trip to reimburse me. In the past six weeks since then, I've called him twice and left messages just saying I would like to talk. I also sent two text...
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    Trying to understand role of identity for an Aspie

    I can't tell you how helpful this was to read. It really resonates with the situation and makes me understand my ex's sensitivity and inability to be at ease. The "blending" you're describing - he was doing with his one close friend and also his ex, which explains his sudden vanishing act when...
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