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Recent content by phoe

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    I feel angry when strangers approach me.

    It could be a fear response because it's not a situation you have control of - try looking at it as a game to test yourself, their getting means nothing more than a grunt of acknowledgement to another member of the same species, and that's probably as far as the getting extends. We got a dog...
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    Chronic depression.

    Browsing the comment before mine, I was also on gabapentin, up to 2400mg/day, before I was put on pregablin (60mg twice a day I think), duloxetine (same), co-codamol, and a morphine type patch (butec 5ug/h) -the butec isn't strong enough really, but I lose too many faculties to drive safely if...
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    Chronic depression.

    Been there, it can get better ! While I was awaiting a diagnosis for Aspergers I was diagnosed with chronic dysthymic disorder, I was so bad I was close to being sectioned for my own safety, and could go from "ok" to seriously planning a suicide event in less than 90 seconds. At the time I was...
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    Leaf picking

    I used to do it all the time, I also pick the large hollow stems of grass and snap them at 1/4 inch lengths. I was diagnosed with Aspergers at the age of 43
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    So frustrated!

    There's no reason why you can't be both a lover and a therapist - all relationships need a degree of work putting in, but at least you know from the outset that he isn't perfect, and has his frailties. Yes, I know we can be a pain in the arse at times, but if he's doing his best, however...
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    So frustrated!

    For what it's worth, if you can cope with the extra stress these issues can put on a relationship, it can be a strong, loving, long lasting relationship, it's our 25th anniversary in a few days !
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    So frustrated!

    Sadly many of us are not good at "executive functioning", which means we're often struggling to cope with the 'basics' in life, like cleanliness, fending for ourselves, cooking & feeding (when I'm in a meltdown I'm prone to eating dry bread or biscuits because I just can't think straight). As a...
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    Lets Talk About Sex! (and ASD)

    I'm hoping if they ever make cannabis legal in the UK, it might lower my inhibitions to let me try to enjoy sex for what it is...
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    Lets Talk About Sex! (and ASD)

    I've been married 25 years, and sex is still a bit of a frustrating mystery - I suspect my wife has ASD too (I'm aspie), and there's very little contact between us. It can be months before I have a short window of feeling horny, and I'm not sure my wife ever does - she doesn't reach orgasm under...
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    I'm losing my wife

    Get her to read this thread, if she can't see then that you're a sensitive soul who can't see how to get out of awkward situations, there might not be much hope unfortunately :-( Aspies are often the most loyal, trusting and faithful partners you could find, probably because we're painfully...
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    Is forgetting a lot an Aspie trait?

    My memory is appalling, I struggle to remember what I'm doing just standing up to move from one room to another. I (seriously) have an email directory in work called "what I'm doing" :-} Other issues include me being face blind, so I can't even follow what's happening in a show I'm trying to...
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    Self-Diagnosed Female Seeking a Formal Diagnosis (Aspergers Syndrome)

    Are you in the UK ? If so, start with your doctor, and ask about the diagnostic pathway for adults with autism - this is a specific bit of legislation that should bear fruit. I was formally diagnosed at 43 after trying to get somewhere via my doctor for 3 years. It took about 3 days after...
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    NT in love with ASD guy

    We tend to be honest and loyal, even if we are as thick as two short planks where emotional intelligence is concerned - I'm an aspie who's been married now for almost 22 years, if you can put up with our flaws we can be keepers !
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    My boyfriend found out he's royal. . . Thoughts?

    Tell him your royal lineage is closer than his, 'go cook my supper, minion !'
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    What are you future plans to help the Aspie Communitty?

    We're in the process of getting charity status for a "hub" for Autism & Aspergers in St Helens, Merseyside, UK - Autism & Aspergers Society, 2nd Floor, Tontine House, St Helens - initially it will be a drop-in support / info centre, and we hope to start social events when we have enough regulars...
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