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Not feeling emotional about babies....

My co-workers are always teasing the childless women about how it's their turn to have a baby. I've tried not to make a big thing of it, but I find it highly inappropriate. I even divulged more than I would like to have about my health condition in an effort to discourage it - but they still see it as fair game I suppose because they don't do it with ill-intentions, and....I think making a big thing of it - that is, in my opinion, simply asserting my thoughts/feelings/reasoning, but that is always construed as "making a big deal" - would spell undesirable social problems. So I just will learn to keep deflecting, at least for now. Anyway, one of the women got pregnant - and everyone was very emotional about it, tearing up, etc. I know there are several women on this forum who share this experience with me - that we just do NOT feel emotional/sentimental about babies. I just don't even connect them with their mothers, so it's not even like - oh, I feel so happy for that woman because I like her, and she's pregnant! This post is not to make a big deal about it. Just relating the experience I've had.

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Oh I know! I don't see the big deal in pregnant women or even women eventually having babies of their own after years of trying and being unsuccessful, etc. A baby is a baby. They are all the same. I feel no emotional connection with them or for the mother and father. Why get emotional about it? I can try and be happy for them, but wouldn't go out of my way and coo around the baby and make a fuss. I would send a card or something to express my thoughts, but after that I'd just forget about the whole situation and let them get on with it.
 

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