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Being me coronavirus

Hey all my way of being is extrovert, hey yeah a diagnosed person who needs people to feel complete ha ha , so plenty much tricky as a way of being, my man aspie introverted and a techi yes tricky right, due to Autism pre coronavirus hard to be together get each others point of view, way of being and difference, he introverted, technical, analytical non expressive, me hyper sensitive, people pleaser, emotive and reactive, plus he is more secure financially and doesn't needs social contacts and is very status driven, myself---- family orientated, wanting inclusion and little value in things ie not status driven, then bring on the corona virus him working from home soooo buisness as usual for him, myself in social care self isolating on a zero hours contract and no work, he said 'i can't be bothered with you and your problems so it's over' my question how long do you work at a relationship when one person has a inability to be with you and work to solutions not augue again and again, my fear of losing my home due to financial problems is not as big as a person who is unable to see my value and way of being please advise

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Ouch, that's harsh of them. I've been there & it was one of the worst pains I've ever had. It convinced me that one could die of heartbreak (note to self :- stop thinking about it) & to be honest there is no easy answer. It would prob. be best to treat them the same way & tell them to GFTS. I say this because they have shown their true colours in this difficult time. I know the thought sucks but please understand that they made that choice & you will end up hurting yourself if you bend over backwards to get them back.
 
hey thanks for the reply relationship update,the i can't be bothered with you' as always had a slant and degree of projection, what happened was i have three options, 1. we make this work 2. we become flat sharers 3. we split and when i can move out i will I went for option 3 accept it's over and be in this situation for as long as need be, stuff money problems i'm responsible for me and my happiness, he is a good man, just unwilling to give and take and understand my perspectives and way on being. Once again thanks for the response .
 

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