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your last aspie shutdown

zurb said:
According to the Fight, Flight, Freeze thread, different aspies react to stress in different ways. I'm definitely of the freeze variety due to shutdown. When one is in shutdown, there's not much chance of fight or flight. Could maybe faun.
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Ah okay, I am more familiar with those terms. So is a meltdown the fight response then?
 
Lola_Daydream said:
Ah okay, I am more familiar with those terms. So is a meltdown the fight response then?
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I'm not sure if freeze=shutdown, or if shutdown then causes freeze. I guess someone could still choose freeze if they weren't in shutdown.
Likewise for fight=meltdown. With meltdown I'm guessing reactions are more instinctive, less calculated, and often results in confrontation. It's hard to reason with someone in meltdown. Though if one were not in meltdown, one could conceivably still choose fight.
Sorry, just my musings.
 
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Progster said:
I know what you mean. I find it hard to shift gears, to go from 'being alone' to 'people mode.' People talking to me when I'm in alone mode feels like an intrusion and I resent it.
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This happens a lot with my partner. She usually says something about it as if I'm just not supposed to do it, ever, when other people are around. That it's rude and dismissive of others.

I can certainly understand that, but what can I do? These aren't shutdowns, just zoning out because I'm overstimulated. But I am very prone to shutdowns at that time, if it causes a confrontation.
 
I had a bit of a meltdown last month when my MA instructor told me I wasn't ready to grade from yellow belt to yellow belt with green stripe! I was rather disappointed with his decision, I mean yeah OK I literally missed 3 whole months of training due to a bout of Pneumonia earlier this year, but I couldn't help that, if I'd trained while suffering it would've literally killed me probably.
 
Savvy said:
How long do shut downs or withdrawals last? Can they last a few weeks at a time?
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For me, it depends. They can just be a question of needing to be on my own for an hour or so, of other times I burn out completely and it can last weeks.
 
So if I haven’t heard from my b/f for 3 weeks I shouldn’t necessarily assume I’m being ghosted?
 
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