Autism is a part of you/us. You cannot change the fact you have autism, and I know many people are smart who live with autism, but then NT people say, "there's something wrong with us" in the same sense that they say fat people shouldn't be very fat, or skinny people need not be skinny, or people with glasses should wear contact lenses, so they look less like a geek. It's just how we are. So why change to suit others?
I mean, maybe there's books that may be 'valuable' somehow, that teach you basic life skills, but in general, some people don't understand autism, or maybe autistic people also don't understand NT behavior. So that person saying that to you was kind of cold. I myself feel like a loner. I'm no longer interested in developing relationships with others. I've been hurt too much. Not having sex, friends, jobs, and whatever does suck. But then I learned to weigh up the pros and cons. It's very hard, and upsetting. I know. I feel like quitting is weak, but then I too felt like it was all bleak and for nothing.
My ex support workers certainly didn't understand me. I am intelligent and full of knowledge, but only those who appreciate my topics of interest would care. Sometimes, I think that my knowledge or my massive collection of things important to me, puts me in the same listing as an unsung hero, leader, or a "God" and I often wonder why 'nobody cares,' let alone seems to notice any of this. So it makes me feel left out, and also disheartened. And then of course, there is bouts of anxiety that creeps up on me, all brought on by betrayal and the fabrication of otherwise petty events, that screw up one's self-esteem even more. To be honest, I half want to gain new support workers to better my life, but I half don't want them again. I'm actually rightfully worried about who they must answer to, and their stool pigeon like mentality is making me think that allowing them back into my life would be a fool's move. It's a no-win situation either way. Then you just carry on feeling way too lonesome.