Y is it so hard to find good honest people

[Maria6681]

Everyone wants friends and to find love. And to be accepted for who they are. But when your on the Spectrum. It is so hard to find people who are unterstnding

 

[ksheehan88]

Good people are hard to find

 

[Suzanne]

It is like there is some kind of code that we cannot get a hold of. I hear ones saying: my friend this and my friend that and I think: but how did you make that friend? Because, as try as I might, I fail so much.

It is horrible looking in on people socialising and not being able to join in.

 

[Maria6681]

Yes I agree my hol like I have struggled I look at other people wishing I could be more like them. People take it for granted that it should be a easy thing to do. But yet for some people it really hard.

 

[Maria6681]

Good people are hard to find

Yes it really is

 

[tree]

Been that way for a long time, apparently.

Diogenes - Wikipedia

 

[clg114]

"Most people" do not understand why I am not like them and they do not understand why I do not want to be like them. Diversity is not a bad thing.

 

[Southern Discomfort]

Well a good starting place would be to look for other people on the autism spectrum. My driving instructor repeatedly tells me I'm a very honest person.

 

[nowwhat]

I've noticed a couple of things about honesty:

People say "be honest", but when I tell them what I really think, they don't seem to like honesty at all.

They also dont like it when you catch them being dishonest.

 

[Maria6681]

Yes I agree sometimes I am honest without thing... But I would prefer honest at all times even if it would really up set me and I don't like what I am hearing

 

[paloftoon]

When people say they want people to be like them, what they really mean to say is that "they want people to be in a "way" that they can somehow be compatible with" and they actually don't really mean they want people to be like them.

Also, honesty is not always the best policy. It can be much of the time, but things such as if you're going on other dates and you let the one person know even though you haven't committed to that person, especially if they didn't ask you if you are on other dates currently, can be more detrimental than helpful depending on the person. I think it is something like this where we may tend to stumble more on. I've had to learn this the hard way

 

[xDominiel]

With the amount of people in the world, there must be those who know exactly how it feels, who have gone through the same.

So why does it seem so hopeless, why do I feel so alone in the endless dark?

 

[paloftoon]

With the amount of people in the world, there must be those who know exactly how it feels, who have gone through the same.

So why does it seem so hopeless, why do I feel so alone in the endless dark?

Because people's emotions are not logical including ours probably! lol.