Would you put this on?

[Raphael Outcast]

Well I have a feeling that people with Asperger's are more ready to think outside the box, and I have a feeling this can include matters of sex and sexuality. Since many Neurotypicals lead sexually repressed or unfulfilling lives, thinking outside the box in this department seems to me an "Aspie superpower"! Better to be uninhibited than inhibited, surely?

I once had a slightly weird fantasy involving a particular female friend. We'd slept together once when we were drunk, and we were at a stage of maybe starting a relationship or maybe not. I told her about it and her eyes went very wide, and then she grinned an evil grin and said she might quite enjoy that actually. Alas, we never slept together again, so it never happened, and the fantasy was more or less specific to her, so I never have tried it. But at least I told her about it and the idea amused her: she did not immediately call the Sex Police and have me arrested for unacceptable weirdness!

And now we have the internet and there are numerous videos of men letting women do the very same thing to them, and there's even a word for it, so it turns out I was not unique in entertaining this fantasy!

If it's genuinely consensual, does no damage to the person, and happens in private, then what can be wrong with it?!

 

[unperson]

I'm a technical cross dresser, cos my genetics is a bit amazonian - tall broad shouldered. have been compared to Xena, but I was younger then, lol. mum sent me and my sister to skewl in boys shirts cos the girls ones didn't fit, to this very day i get a better fit in mens shirts and jackets. can wear smaller mens shoe sizes too.

 

[SusanLR]

Cross dressing has always been a fantasy of mine.
But, none of the guys I've ever gone with want to. Bummer.
I want the whole thing with costumes.
I want to do his make up, long hair, furry cuffs, feathers, girls clothes.
Yeah, he can keep his hat on!

The old female cop costume for me. Leather outfit, whip.
Sure...dream on.

 

[unperson]

There's definately higher levels of androgyny in autism, for younger people that may translate into younger people's sense of social fashion.

 

[Raphael Outcast]

Oh, and when it comes to cross-dressing, obviously you can cancel my comments about only doing it in private. If I had the figure for it, I'd be amused and excited to dress as a woman and go out for the evening with a girlfriend (or I would have been when I was younger, anyhow).

 

[Gracey]

while serving, In full combat dress, helmet, webbing, carrying an SLR I over heard a couple of civilian women commenting that I only needed a moustache to complete the outfit.

I'm hardly going to wear a skirt for hard landscaping the garden either.

I have to wonder if fantasies are better than the real thing? - dependant on imagination?

But personally you'll never know for sure until you ask/try?

 

[Lemongrab]

Sounds like fun to me. I'm a guy and I would try that for someone I liked.

 

[Raphael Outcast]

I have to wonder if fantasies are better than the real thing?

I seem to recall reading there are some fantasies which are only arousing so long as they remain fantasies, and we'd scream & run a mile if it ever looked like some of our fantasies were actually about to happen. And I certainly have some fantasies like that, i.e. they might be arousing in my imagination but I know all along that I'd be extremely uncomfortable if they were actually happening to me.

There again there are also fantasies I kind of buried when I was younger, thinking they were outrageous and unhealthy, and now actually I wish I'd had the opportunity to try them, and/or at least the courage to mention them and see what kind of a response my then girlfriend had. I had at least one girlfriend who was pretty unshockable, very turned on by pornography, loved to watch us in mirrors, and would have been up for practically anything I've ever seriously wanted to do with a woman. So if the chemistry between the two of you happens to be right, I agree: at least ask, and maybe try it!

 

[BrokenBoy]

I feel my mood shift from "manly" to "girly" frequently and I want to dress and present myself differently depending on these "moods".

 

[Moonhart44]

I may be on more of the asexual side, because i have terrible sexual fantasies. even as a kid i never even daydreamed or fantasized pass a first kiss. if i daydreamed about "sex" it would simply fade to black and it would be the next day.
i think my very few fetishes include uniforms (especially black cop uniforms), and i guess fantasies of light dominiation onto me.

 

[Ezra]

Sometimes cross-dressing doesn't work out so well: