Agree. I think there's probably even more to it than the categories you and I have mentioned.
And I was definitely selecting for people who probably aren't happy with their life situation to provide a contrast to the post I quoted. That particular group certainly exists, but it's certainly not a majority.
My point was just that the text that refers to the Pew Study only explicitly described the most positive interpretation.
That's the kind of close that's normal in a magazine article. But you wouldn't expect to see it in a serious study.
The reason I asked for a link is that IMO the most likely explanation is that
That text might actually come from a "puff piece" that's referring to a serious study, but in which that "upbeat" close is just "feel-good" journalism.
Nothing unusual in that, but now I want to see the material from the study.
I don't like how some posters have a free pass to disrespect/vilify men who struggle romantically, yet if we so much as cite a study that shows male autists are far more likely than female autists to be single, we're viewed as pot-stirrers trying to start a contest of who has it worse.
Umm, pointing out a true fact (backed up by studies) isn't "pot-stirring." If anything, an example of pot-stirring would be the falsehoods that get spread on here about struggling men.
We get called entitled, we get called incels, and (on this very thread) a critic said no one wants to date us.
First of all,
incel is one of the worst words you could call anyone. In many circles, the term
incel is used as a synonym for
domestic terrorist. In other words, anyone who calls us incels is basically calling us terrorists.
It's frowned upon (and rightly so) to stereotype all Muslims as terrorists just because some Muslims have committed terrorism. It should also be frowned upon to view all men who struggle romantically as terrorists just because
some men who struggled romantically committed terrorism.
As for the entitlement claim? I'd never want a totally uninterested woman to be forced into being with me. I'm pretty sure the same is true of all the "incels" on here. The idea that men who are upset over our romantic struggles want an uninterested woman to get forced into being with us is the biggest falsehood ever.
Which brings me to my next point: It's incorrect to say no woman wants to date me.
There have been multiple instances through the years where I found out through the grapevine a female coworker was into me. I never did an askout on any of these female coworkers though (because I'm simply not cut out to make the first move, even if I already know the woman is into me). That's the core reason I struggle romantically: The fact I'm not cut out to make the first move.
The sheer amount of attention I've gotten from gay guys goes to show how well I can do under circumstances where I'm
not expected to make the first move. If only I was gay, all my romantic struggles would be solved.
