Why can't people just say what they mean?

[wyverary]

I'm describing the social structure that exists; it's a SYSTEM that by definition Aspies are not aware of. I have found that describing how the social system works causes bells to go off in many Aspie minds; instead of blaming themselves and being utterly confused, they can observe social typicals in a new and realistic way, and filter out the bullies and social climbers and find neurotypicals who are capable of an Aspie-style friendship.

I see what you are saying now, and it is absolutely true. In broader society, there are "rules" for getting ahead...especially, I think (though I could be wrong), here in the States, which has a very laissez-faire economy and culture and thus "getting ahead" is valued above most other things. I guess I have been extremely lucky throughout my life, in finding those NT's with whom I can connect...And it's always the "weirdos" who are outcasts themselves with whom I get along best. (I've stated that many times before, but I guess it bears repeating).

 

[radasp]

I see what you are saying now, and it is absolutely true. In broader society, there are "rules" for getting ahead...especially, I think (though I could be wrong), here in the States, which has a very laissez-faire economy and culture and thus "getting ahead" is valued above most other things. I guess I have been extremely lucky throughout my life, in finding those NT's with whom I can connect...And it's always the "weirdos" who are outcasts themselves with whom I get along best. (I've stated that many times before, but I guess it bears repeating).

Yes, Aspergers, who are at the bottom of the social hierarchy, will gravitate toward other low-social "weirdos." Americans deny it, but we are a highly unequal society,