When do parents stop acting like parents?

[MROSS]

From my personal expreinces, I find it best to reasses the previous twenty posts (as of this writing) in order to gain further insights - to add to this disc. thread.

 

[Shevek]

Paramahansa Yogananda related the story of his guru, Sri Yukteshwar, revered by hundreds, still getting scolded by his mother, and taking it politely.

 

[MROSS]

Parents (of even adult children with High Functioning Autism (HFA) - short of NT like) can often do the wrong things for the right reasons.

What a parent's heart says, their mind can naturally forget.

There is online content on what is known as the "reason-emotion dichotomy" - descriptions in actual printed words written by people acting as impartial advocates are refreshing to read, and can prove to be "ice-breakers of sorts."

I would hesitate to have even thoughtful discussions with parents on anything relating to the "reason-emotion dichotomy."

I would also hesitate mention anything with the word 'dichotomy' to those trusted family friends and relatives who (from my personal approval) will act as advisors at a future time on those complex issues in life.

I've felt discussions with trusted friends/relatives on handling those complex issues have proven to be that "ice breaker of sorts."

I feel it's important to read the above post in print - esp. if experiences of the sometimes paintful dynamics associated with the reason/emotion dichotomy are too often "taking for granted" and hance, are next to impossible to put to words.

What are the perspectives gained via reading about the dynamics stemming from the reason/emotion dichotomy in print?

Might reading the above, and bringing such dynamics to the attention to trstued impartial acquaintences/relatives help finally "break the ice?"

 

[MROSS]

I feel it's important to read the above post in print - esp. if experiences of the sometimes paintful dynamics associated with the reason/emotion dichotomy are too often "taking for granted" and hance, are next to impossible to put to words.

What are the perspectives gained via reading about the dynamics stemming from the reason/emotion dichotomy in print?

Might reading the above, and bringing such dynamics to the attention to trstued impartial acquaintences/relatives help finally "break the ice?"

ADDENDUM: It's natural for parents to remain overprotective with the Autism Spectrum (even with High Functioning Autism (HFA)) involved.

From my personal experience, a parent with professional experiences involving developmental disorders does not always prove helpful - that is too much emphasis on resources involving developmental disorders has proven unnecessary, adn discouraging with HFA.

Personally, I've "broken the ice" with parents via pinpointing advisors appropriate for adults with HFA - HFA short of NT-like. Family friends / relatives NOT experienced both professionally, personally with developmental disorders have proven to be the best resources. No this was not a misprint.

Can this discusison thread truly prove to offer "icebreakers of sorts??"

 

[MROSS]

ADDENDUM: It's natural for parents to remain overprotective with the Autism Spectrum (even with High Functioning Autism (HFA)) involved.

From my personal experience, a parent with professional experiences involving developmental disorders does not always prove helpful - that is too much emphasis on resources involving developmental disorders has proven unnecessary, adn discouraging with HFA.

Personally, I've "broken the ice" with parents via pinpointing advisors appropriate for adults with HFA - HFA short of NT-like. Family friends / relatives NOT experienced both professionally, personally with developmental disorders have proven to be the best resources. No this was not a misprint.

Can this discusison thread truly prove to offer "icebreakers of sorts??"

LAST ADDENDUM: Posting relevant content in parts to avoid confusion. The Autism Spectrum (even NT-like adults) presents challenges in developing frendships- the very friendships necessary for independence form parents.

Again, being acquainted with trusted family friends, and relatives (who can sometimes act as impartial advocates) are increasingly proving beneficial toward greater independence.

Personally, the issues I would handle with trusted people are those trickier consumer issues that periodically are a part of life e.g., the purchasing of motor vehicles, rental, and property issues.

Most of all, those awesome peopel in our lives might just prove helpful in encouraging us to step out of "our comfort zones," and develop those friendships also important for the many informal parts of life!