Exactly
DogwoodTree No one accepts, likes, is happy with another person for no reason. "Accept me no matter what." is a fairy tale fantasy world. Not bathing for a month makes one unacceptable, lying, cheating, stealing, murdering, etc... all make a person unacceptable to the vast majority of other people.
We each find other things unacceptable that others have, do, say or are. NO ONE IS 100% ACCEPTABLE , no matter what, period.
Same for understanding, I'm not going to understand every one of your feelings just like you won't understand every one of mine. You wouldn't understand why DJ making the mics feedback on purpose and laughing pissed me off to the point I smashed a speaker over his head just like I don't understand why you would complain about your sister leaving a mess in your car and not buying gas for it - just go to her and make her clean it, or pay to have it cleaned and, make her give you money for the gas she used out of that car. No reason to get upset, just deal with it.
Sure I could give you "OH, that's horribly inconsiderate of her. I hate inconsiderate people." But what would that accomplish? Nothing unless I needed to make you think you were my superionr and, I thougt you were so much smarter than me that I wouldn't dare suggest a solution to your problem of the moment. It's just big wig pandering and arse kissing is all that crap is. it isn't real or honest.
Is that really what NTs want and do ALL OF THE TIME? I mean yes it'a public event, meeting the boss, negotiating a big contract, etc... thing but, is that BS what you all want all of the time? No realism? No honesty? No solution to personal problems?