What faux pas, have you Made not knowing

[Binary_Bark]

So, more than once,
A colleague showed me a photo of a ring being welded, then a photo later showing the final work. (Art project, later learned)
One, the welding was bad, so I said so straight. Later the finished project: I said, "It looks like someone just took a bicycle wheel and placed it in a block of cement."

.............. Turns out it was his daughter's university art project

Does your mouth ever just run off and go? Later you're like, 'What the?'

 

[Tired]

A good rule is to not give critique to something unless specifically asked for that.

 

[Binary_Bark]

A good rule is to not give critique to something unless specifically asked for that.

Can be hard to stop the blurting out sometimes, and forget what you've said

 

[Aspychata]

Umm, yes guilty. Though it happens way less. A homeschool parent asked what l thought of her daughter's Halloween costume and blurted out that she looked like Big Bird on Sesame Street, and that maybe wasn't a good thing to say. I also asked a lady how many months she was along, yeah, oops, not, meaning not pregnant. After that huge mistake, l don't ask random questions for fear of being beat up.

 

[Jumpinbare]

I literally don't know. They haven't gotten back to me. It is certain I have made some. I am not a social guy.

 

[Lou Laurinen]

I’ve made quite a few of them lol.

One I’m still embarrassed about was when I was on the train, and a guy was chattering very loudly on the phone, to the point where it was disruptive, and I turned to the woman next to me and said “This guy’s kinda oblivious, huh?”
She replied “That’s my son.”

 

[thejuice]

I’ve made quite a few of them lol.

One I’m still embarrassed about was when I was on the train, and a guy was chattering very loudly on the phone, to the point where it was disruptive, and I turned to the woman next to me and said “This guy’s kinda oblivious, huh?”
She replied “That’s my son.”

Id be embarrassed to admit it was my son!

 

[thejuice]

As a 10 year old asking at the dinner table if a girl was on a diet because she didn't put anything on her plate. I got the "How very dare you!!!" treatment from my older cousin who I thought was a friend. Then afterwards it was total disgusted silence like I had commited a murder

 

[Chingching]

When my friend at work gave me constipation relief stuff because she knows I get constipated but I have a bit of a fear of taking anything for constipation so I kinda squirmed and threw it into her bag. She didn't let on but I think my impulsive reaction might have alarmed her a bit. It's out of character for me really because usually I am thankful for any gift people give me even if I don't really like it. But she didn't go out and buy it, she said she just had too many in her cupboard at home (her friend she lives with gets constipated).

 

[Dagan]

A friend of a friend asked me if I had seen a movie before. I did. I explained that I liked it but wondered what it could have been more so, if they had a bigger budget because it seemed to be made at a very restricted cost. They told me it was their other friend's film and had just under a million dollar budget. I was shocked, but immediately pointed out that one of my crew's films was made for about $16,000 only. Butthurt was had that day. Oh, well.

 

[Shevek]

I was well known at the bike shop, and was asked my opinion on the appearance of a new bike with nice light blue paint, and as many gold-anodized components as were available. It was striking, but as a jeweler I'm sensitive to mixing gold and silver in one piece, and found it jarring. I just said it looks like hell - it should be all one colour or the other. The proud new owner was an employee, present.

At a car show, I saw a friend near a mid-50s Nash Rambler station wagon, a mass of smooth but conflicting shapes in bad two-tone paint. I ridiculed it, not knowing that the owner was nearby, a co-worker of his, and the woman who had gone on her honeymoon in it.

At an Alternative Faire, there was a large Tipi I was interested in. Several people were in small discussions, but one was standing alone on the periphery. I asked him about it, and he replied, but seemed reluctant. I asked if he was with the exhibit, and he said no, he was in his own exhibit, advocating the non-use of tents. I think he should at least have had a poncho, or laid down.

 

[velociraptor]

Being honest? Most of them, I think.

Been arrested for being naked in public So Many Times before I quit drinking.

 

[Judge]

My girlfriend's 4 year-old daughter once crawled up into my lap and fell asleep with her head resting on my shoulder, as her mother and I were watching television.

After a time she began to feel a bit warm and I put my hand over her forehead, thinking she was running a temperature. Whispered to her mother that she did feel a bit warm. She just giggled a bit which seemed odd at the moment. Then she said, "That's not her forehead that's warm.

Then she slid her hand palm-up under her somewhat short nightie.

When she pulled her hand out it became obvious why her daughter felt so warm on my lap. I felt so stupid, but then my girlfriend said something like "Welcome to parenting and the three p's". Though I just didn't expect to be "baptized" in such a classic manner.

 

[Lou Laurinen]

My husband had a good one when I mentioned this to him earlier.

He said he was in a restaurant once with his friend and they were getting some pretty bad service. But he told his friend not to say anything because "They'll spit in our food."
The waiter, who had apparently been standing behind him, said "Do you want me to, jackass?"
He said he has never been so mortified in his life. Lol

 

[Lou Laurinen]

Another restaurant story, I'm not sure if this is really a "faux pas," but it's funny...

On one of our first dates, we split the bill (like we always do), and my husband (boyfriend at the time) gave the waitress a pretty big tip, because the service was really quite exceptional. He paid in cash, which, after this story happened, he learned not to do at restaurants, lol.

Husband said "I tipped you $20, keep the change." The waitress misinterpreted this as, keep ALL of the cash, and she took all of his cash as a tip, and charged the ENTIRE meal to my card. LOL.
Obviously more his fault than the waitress's, because he didn't specify.

We laugh about it all the time now, but at the time I was just like "Are you freaking kidding me?!"

 

[UFO]

Damn. I have learned that I don't always understand what I have said or done wrong even when explained. Some of your stories still leave me wondering that if everything went exactly how you describe them, what is the problem?

For example: With Binary_Bark's original post "it was daughter's art project" I understand that Binary_Bark was criticizing it heavily, perhaps unfairly considering the criticized person, but Dagan's "budget comment" just sounds to me as a notion that their skills were not a restriction, and that they are good enough to do even better with a better budget. Not much of an insult to me. Or perhaps saying "one of my crew's made it even cheaper" was the insulting part, turning it to a competition?

My own history of blurts can be condensed to that I often mix "it was not wise to do that, because..." and "you are moron, because..." without actually being annoyed of the situation, or thinking that the person is stupid. I don't understand how that kind of blurts are even possible, but still they happen.

 

[Shevek]

I had a roommate whose name was spelled differently but pronounced the same. We had fun getting all our friends used to the situation. Then, he graduated and got an office job. I went to see him, and asked the receptionist to see "John Browne."
"And who shall I say is calling?" she prompted.
"John Brown."
"No, who's calling?"
"John Brown."
"No, who's calling?"
"John Brown"
"NO! Who are YOU!!"
I'd forgotten that she was new to the situation.

 

[Neonatal RRT]

One part of my brain knows that when I get a bit excited my mouth is a lot faster than my brain... too many situations that have gotten me odd facial expressions and people pissed at me. I am not sure what the situation was on their end... but rarely did they make a big deal about any of it... but I knew I did something wrong, then found myself on the backs of my heels trying to explain my thinking when they were upset... and not listening. Too late... judgements made. At some level I had the sense that many knew I was a bit "off"... no clue as to autism, but I was also an intimidating 250-260lb competitive powerlifter... so that likely inhibited any inclination to start a fight mentally or physically. Most people likely walked away... but then, perhaps, tried to ruin my reputation by talking to others behind my back... and branding me with a false "moral diagnosis".

Today... there's a lot less of that going on. I am much more self aware. I have far more temperance, will ask follow up questions with interest, will try to gain some perspective and context... then make comments. The best thing I can do for myself is maintain a sense of calm so I can think clearly. As soon as emotions are elevated... my mouth will get me in trouble. No good comes of it.

 

[Chingching]

My very neurotypical aunt once made a very embarrassing social faux pas. A relative (a rather large person) was coming to visit and phoned my mother to let us know she was on her way. My aunt knew she was on the other end of the phone but still yelled out that there won't be any room for fat people. I looked up gobsmacked, wondering why she was shouting that out like that when the fat relative could have easily heard. Then it dawned on my aunt and she put her hand over her mouth in shame. No she wasn't drunk or anything. I don't know what she was thinking yelling out such a thing like that about someone who could have easily heard. It was like she had forgotten that calling someone fat is socially unacceptable.
I don't think the relative heard through the phone, thank goodness. She's a sensitive sort of person so if she did hear we probably would know.

 

[Binary_Bark]

All the stories thus far, thank you all! Ya'll amazing!
I've tried not to comment unless asked, well....

Trying to teach someone a program, they said, "Just don't get it."

Before I could stop myself...

"Because you're too dense....."