What are some weird things NTs have said in response to your behaviors/choices?

[watersprite]

Recently I attempted to become a volunteer at a local non-profit. In introducing myself to the volunteer manager, I was given the choice of several jobs. So I chose an outdoors assignment working on my own, and told her this was because I am quite shy. Her response was to chuckle.

 

[Athelstan]

Well, ummm, most things they say and do are weird to me. That's the nature of AS and being me, is it not?

 

[Kari Suttle]

For me, being a self diagnosed aspie comes hand in hand with having texture issues eating. I've gotten odd remarks on it my whole life from friends and family alike. I mean really, so what if i don't like any veggies on my sandwiches and routinely pull them all off? And scrape off all the sauce or whatever is on it. For me, sauce goes with fries or chicken strips and stuff like that not sandwiches. Since we've figured out i might be an aspie my family has pretty much let the issue go but friends always remark about it. It gets annoying. Its not even that I don't like it or I'm picky, i just can't tolerate it. Other than that I don't really get odd remarks. Odd looks with misunderstandings, sure, all the time. Especially if I'm nervous and can't find the right words to say to get my issue across at work so I end up stumbling over my words. Sometimes they'll give me an odd look and try to prompt the answer out of me and other times they'll get it right away on their own. But to behavior or choices not really.

If you place your utensils in a way that signals you've finished eating, I will remove your plate. I'm not a mind reader and I expect my guests to know basics of dining. Utensils crossed - still eating, utensils together - finished, at least in my part of the world. People not being able to place utensils properly is really frustrating.

Huh. Interesting, I didn't know there was an unspoken protocol on utensils and being finished. I'm guessing it goes mostly/only for fancy restaurants?

 

[umbrellabeach]

I have an awful time with menus. It's too much information and rarely organized in a way that's easy for me to follow. If I'm out with friends, I either ask the person I'm with what they like and order that (and hope for the best) or I order the same thing every single time because I don't need a menu to do that. When I'm with family, it's easier, because they'll wait patiently while I try to make sense of the menu. Or, if they know generally what I want (say, chicken, not steak), they'll get me to the right part of the menu, so I can find things more easily.

Lucky you. My family always wants me to order right away, even if we're at an unfamiliar restaurant, and then they get frustrated when I say I don't know what I want. I try to concentrate on the menu and pick something, but all their fuss and pestering me makes it even more difficult. It's counterproductive on their part but they can't see that.

Recently I attempted to become a volunteer at a local non-profit. In introducing myself to the volunteer manager, I was given the choice of several jobs. So I chose an outdoors assignment working on my own, and told her this was because I am quite shy. Her response was to chuckle.

I've gotten responses like that too. I tell people I'm shy and they just laugh at me. I don't know why. Do they think we're joking, that a truly shy person wouldn't actually say she was shy? Sometimes I just get laughed at no matter what I say or do, by people who don't even know me... and yet, other people are taken super seriously no matter what they say or do.

 

[musclecarman]

Why do they take it away?

They once gave me a colouring book. I'm twenty-six.

that's so mean they probally did that to piss you off next time kick them in the balls where it hurts and tell them that you could do worse next time.

 

[watersprite]

I've gotten responses like that too. I tell people I'm shy and they just laugh at me. I don't know why. Do they think we're joking, that a truly shy person wouldn't actually say she was shy? Sometimes I just get laughed at no matter what I say or do, by people who don't even know me...

Yes, this is what happens to me too. There are so many confusing ways of attempting to find understanding that I get overwhelmed & just stop trying. Over the years I have tried to develop a set of benign scripts to use with people, but not all situations can be 'mapped out' ahead of time, if you know what I mean.

 

[113]

If you place your utensils in a way that signals you've finished eating, I will remove your plate. I'm not a mind reader and I expect my guests to know basics of dining. Utensils crossed - still eating, utensils together - finished, at least in my part of the world. People not being able to place utensils properly is really frustrating.

What part of the world is that? Just so I don't lose my food... I generally line my utensils up, even if I'm in the middle of eating. I didn't know that it has a meaning.