What are conversations like for you?

[Progster]

I kind of have to construct sentences, does any one else get that? Takes a lot of concentration.

 

[Aidan49]

Depends on the person and if I'm paying attention. Because sometimes when you are out strangers speak you and you are so busy in thought that you don't realise that they have just said something.

If it is someone i know then it depends on how well i get on with them, how well i click. I find conversations easier with women than men.

 

[Gracey]

In real time conversations I will stall for time using a script should I have to work out a context before understanding a meaning.

“Sorry, say again?”
“I didn’t catch that sorry”

I might pick up on a word used and use it as a question in the hope they expand their explanation.
giving me clues to some context, which direction the conversation is headed and how I might respond appropriately...
... or sometimes my best guess at what’s appropriate.
Doesn’t always work but until I find an easier way, that’s the best I’ve got.

 

[Mary Anne]

If the conversation has a 'canned' response or relies on scripts and has a specific purpose, then It's ok - things like going to the supermarket where the interaction has a specific purpose, or basic politeness such as greeting people, saying thank you which rely on scripts are no problem, but knowing what to say to carry on the conversation is difficult because I'm never sure what to say. I feel that everything I say need to have a purpose, and that is the problem with small talk, it seems to me to have no purpose. Interaction with my students while teaching is something I have learned to do well, it is business and not social, and it has a purpose, so that's ok, too. I rarely speak or interact with others just for the sake of it, without reason.

Ahhhh, the teacher who is stilted, not warm, quiet, to the point, and only speaks of lessons, grades, and no small talk. I, ad a child was so scared of them (they (you) are working in every educational institution). I still shy away, but you just allowed me to understand that their “serious”, dry, focused nature might well “just” be autism! See if you could practice a wee little small talk- it WILL truly help some students. Some students NEED that.

 

[Progster]

Ahhhh, the teacher who is stilted, not warm, quiet, to the point, and only speaks of lessons, grades, and no small talk. I, ad a child was so scared of them (they (you) are working in every educational institution). I still shy away, but you just allowed me to understand that their “serious”, dry, focused nature might well “just” be autism! See if you could practice a wee little small talk- it WILL truly help some students. Some students NEED that.

I'm forced to do a job that I'm not suited to.